Death is just a temporary separation. "I live the most ordinary life." Hell on earth

8-year-old girl died after the first wedding night.
The cause of death horrified us to the point of shivering ...

A terrible incident in Yemen shook world community... 8-year-old girl Ravan fell victim to her own wedding night. The country's traditions allow and even encourage early marriage.

However, such unions often end in tragedy for the unfortunate girls. Having married, they in fact become the property of the spouse. Those, having bought a wife from her relatives for several hundred dollars, do not stand on ceremony with girls.

Children are not able to grasp the seriousness of the situation. Conclusion of such marriage union it seems to them fun game, a fairy tale where they play a role the main character... But this fairy tale does not last long, and then the nightmare begins.

8-year-old Ravan dies after being possessed for the first time legal spouse... The cause of death of the child was the gap internal organs, including the uterus.

It is worth noting that in Yemen similar cases - is by no means uncommon. A year before the death of Ravan, the media had already covered the death of another girl, who also married very little. She passed away at the age of 12 while trying to give birth to a child.

The practice of marrying fatherly men is completely normal in Yemen. Statistics show that more than half of the country's girls under 18 are already getting married. And about a quarter even marry before reaching 15!

People around the world are fighting this eerie tradition. Unfortunately, even the families of those very young brides oppose them, because the groom usually pays a decent ransom to the girl's relatives. Money is more important to them than the well-being of their own daughter! A tragic picture ...

Last week I walked slowly through the morning cemetery. A human-height sculpture caught my eye, and I moved closer. Unknown master carved from white stone curly woman's head... Just below beautiful face there is an inscription: "Dear Simochka".

I choked. Simochka is actually me. Perfect coincidence. I looked at the years of the deceased's life and choked a second time. 1940-1970. Only thirty years old. Do I need to say how old I will be in a few days?

Exactly six months ago, I had a nightmare. I was in the passenger seat, my mother was driving. The car skidded. We flew into the lake. When the car sank into the water, it became dark, and I felt something pressing hard on my ears. I tried to open the door, but nothing worked - it was blocked.

Suddenly I realized: everything, now I will run out of air and I will die. The understanding was clear, painfully clear. I gazed into the dark green murk of water, into the air bubbles that rose up, and I was seized by a real horror. And along with it, bitter regret that life ended so quickly. If you have ever stood on the threshold of life and death, you understand what feeling I am talking about. It can neither be confused with another, nor forgotten.

Nobody needs a woman after 30. In Russia, it becomes illiquid

I woke up and could not recover for a long time, the dream seemed too real. At a meeting with a psychotherapist, she asked what such a dream could mean. She replied that in six months something should happen. I looked at her and said that in exactly six months I would turn thirty.

- Are you scared?
“Very much,” I admitted.

And now, only a few days separate me from my thirties, and I am trying to understand why this particular figure inspires so much fear. Is this the end of youth? Fear of death? Watershed?

I remembered how a friend once told me: “Nobody needs a woman after 30. In Russia it becomes illiquid ”. This is etched into my memory. I must admit, I did not have time to get married before thirty. So maybe in a couple of days the clock will strike midnight, I'll turn into a pumpkin, and my phone will be silent forever? For men, I will turn into invisibility, and they will pass through me, as people passed through Patrick Swayze in the movie "Ghost"?

I read the women's forum and stumble upon the phrase: "For a woman after 30, the presence of a husband is mandatory, like the presence of a sanitary book from a cook." Well, here you are, which is what was required to be proved.

How not to be frightened when these stupid voices are heard all around and settle into soapy foam? Do they equate you with a product that has an expiration date and reduce value as a person only to the ability to be someone else's woman? Voices that say after thirty you end up as a person and start out as a loser?

I didn't get married not because in the marriage market I am a poor-quality product that no one took

It makes no sense to deny that society is pressing. Better to find a solution and a way out of the situation - to get married. Just kidding. Just find a way to deal with the fear. Reason tells me that in a few days, although I will become thirty, nothing will change in me. I will not be covered with wrinkles in the evening, I will not wake up completely gray-haired. And there will still be a lime wedge in your morning glass of water, not a snapping denture.

It's time to admit: I did not get married not because in the marriage market I am a low-quality product that no one took. It's time to stop treating yourself like that. I didn't get married until I was thirty because I didn't want to. And that's okay.

I wanted to live for myself, get an education, build a career, go to parties, dance until the morning, travel, get to know people, have sex, read books, stand on my head, bungee jumping ... Anything but not getting married ... And I had the right to this - not to want a family, children. Nobody can take this right away from me.

Getting married after thirty is as normal as brushing your teeth in the morning. The age of marriage registration in Russia today is 5-7 years higher than it was 30 years ago. Now it is 28 for girls and 32 for men. In Norway, women get married for the first time at an average of 32, in Sweden and Ireland at 34. The higher the standard of living in the country, the higher this figure. If you live well alone, there is no point in getting married early.

If you also did not manage to get married before 30 or build a career, buy an apartment, grow a tree, or fly to the moon (substitute any directive about what you should have done here), do not worry. If you didn't, then you didn't want to.

And even more so they shouldn't have. You don’t owe anything to anyone: neither your parents, nor your family, nor society. You only owe yourself. And as long as you live the way you want, you are repaying this debt to yourself.

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Olga Chernetskaya, a 40-year-old woman from Grodno, died in the Egyptian resort town of Hurghada, and the next day friends and acquaintances began to say that death was not accidental. After all new boyfriend the woman with whom she entered into an Orfi marriage a month and a half ago is married to a Russian woman. Olga herself, a successful businesswoman, has three apartments in Egypt, and her young children are under the supervision of a man who is little known to family and friends.

Olga Chernetskaya moved to Egypt a year ago. Here she lived with two children in her own two-room apartment. Alexander learned that his sister had suddenly died literally half an hour later, on the afternoon of November 18. I called him from Oli's number unfamiliar man Ahmed, as it turned out later - olga's orphy husband... He said that she died in the hospital from cardiac arrest. The consulate confirmed the death of his sister to the man. Olga is only 40, she did not live four days to her birthday.

The family suspected that something was wrong in history on the very first day. Already on Saturday, Olga's Egyptian friend Mukhamed, at Alexander's request, went to the hospital where the woman's body was, and immediately called.

Friends think the woman didn't die by accident

By Saturday evening, my brother's phone was literally torn apart by calls and messages from Olga's friends and acquaintances. Almost everyone said that the death of a woman was not accidental.

According to her brother, Olga never complained about her health, she felt well.

“We talked every day. We discussed all the issues, ”says Alexander.

It turned out that Olga at the end of September signed an orfi contract with an Egyptian citizen, Ahmed. According to his brother, he first learned about the existence of the Orfi husband only on the day of his sister's death, but adds: "My sister did not discuss her personal life with him, because she knew that I was against relations with Muslims."

An Orphy contract is a paper that is signed by a lawyer in the presence of witnesses and only indicates the intention to marry. After all, any relationship between an Egyptian and a woman without an Orphi contract can end in arrest. Then the orphy contract is legalized in court. Many couples enter into a prenuptial agreement upon marriage.

Friends wrote to Alexander that they saw a contract, which indicated that in the event of Olga's death, all her property would go to her husband.

Olga's husband Orphy is spotted in real estate fraud

After her death, it turned out that Olga's orphy husband was married to a Russian woman, which meant that he had no right to marry other women. In addition, he and his wife may be involved in real estate scams in Egypt.

In one of the groups on social networks, a photo of this couple appeared and a message asking to stay away from her. Friends also found a statement to the police in Arabic, written in Olga's orphy husband, in which he was accused of fraud.

“I passed this information to the consulate, and they explained to me that if there are such suspicions, then let Muhammad apply to law enforcement Egypt. That I can also write a statement to the General Prosecutor's Office of Egypt, ”says Alexander.

Belarusian woman has three apartments in Egypt

Olga Chernetskaya can be called a businesswoman. She is the founder of a transport company that deals with cargo transportation. Including the supply of dairy products to Russia, she still has a house in Grodno, half of her summer cottage.

Exactly a year ago, she finally moved to Hurghada, but did not leave the company. She worked remotely. In Egypt, Olga still had documents, and in her computer she had access to the finance and accounts of the transport company. On the very first day, the brother made sure that all the company's accounts were frozen, because, apparently, now an unknown man may be in his sister's apartment.

As the brother of the deceased Belarusian Alexander explains, Olga owns three apartments in Hurghada. It is for the fate of this property that the friends of the deceased woman are now worried.

Olga bought a one-room studio apartment 3-4 years ago. Then she literally fell in love with Egypt, she came to the apartment several times a year. But when I decided to move, I bought a more spacious two-room apartment. All real estate was registered in the ownership of Olga. A year ago, she finally moved to Egypt. The children's father remained in Grodno.

“In August, she came home to Grodno, for the first time since moving to Hurghada. She said that she was used to the sun, the sea, that she did not want to return to Belarus, ”my brother recalls.

It was then that the woman filed for divorce from her Belarusian husband and shared her plans that she wanted to change two apartments for one four-room apartment.

“Two weeks ago I bought a four-room apartment in installments, started selling two other apartments at the same time, and filed ads,” says my brother.

Children in Hurghada under the supervision of an unknown man

The identity of Olga Chernetskaya's orphy husband remains a mystery to many of her friends. They say that a man appeared in Olga's life recently. The brother recalls that he first heard the name Ahmed in September. Olga said that they went on an excursion to Cairo together. On her page in social network began to appear joint photos. Close girlfriend Tatiana said that she found out about Akhmed only on Thursday, two days before Olga's sudden death.

Now in Hurghada there are four-year-old daughter and five-year-old son of Olga Chernetskaya. After the death of the mother, the children were handed over to the Orfi-husband of the Belarusian Ahmed. The family learned this information from the consulate.

“We are assured that the children are safe, that Ahmed received the children under a police signature. On Monday, it was reported that he took the children to kindergarten, ”said Alexander.

Nevertheless, Olga's Egyptian friends have information that Ahmed did not leave the kids in kindergarten, restricted access to them, which looks after them with his first wife. They worry that a man might harm the babies.

It is not known when the family will be able to pick up the children. As Alexander explains, own father I was going to fly to Hurghada in the near future. But when the Belarusian guardianship authorities learned that there could be a criminal trace in the death of their mother, they said: “The children are in a socially dangerous position.”

Advised to return them only with the help of the consulate and the Ministry of Foreign Affairs. Friends of the deceased woman insist that the police take over the case.

Olga will be buried at orthodox cemetery in Egypt

All weekend the relatives were solving the issue of Olga's funeral. She had no insurance, and the family had to pay for the delivery of the body. This is from 3 to 5 thousand dollars. Relatives do not have such money, nor do they have access to the woman's accounts. They decided that they would not transport Olga to their homeland, but would bury her in Egypt.

Their only wish is that the burial takes place in an Orthodox cemetery in orthodox traditions... The Belarusian consulate in Cairo began to deal with all organizational issues.

On Monday afternoon, the family sent a notarized burial permit to Egypt. According to preliminary information, the funeral should take place today. So far, the relatives do not know if there will be an investigation into Olga's sudden death and whether an autopsy was scheduled to find out the exact cause of the woman's death.

There are girls, albeit not particularly beautiful, but brilliant. If you saw Anya appear in a restaurant, you would think that this is the most attractive woman in the world. Long thick red hair, height - one meter seventy-seven without heels, muscular legs and a train of vibrating energy.

Looking closely, you would notice that her nose looks like a plum, her cheeks are thick, there is a second chin, the waist is fat (such a structure), and her legs are slightly crooked. Well, yes, not God knows what the shortcomings, but still you would have a problem if you wanted to call her a beauty.

I immediately fell in love with her. Anya loved to travel - she could wake up in the middle of the night (literally), book tickets to Norway and go there next Friday. Or Sakhalin. Or in Peru. She was not very smart, but she earned a lot (a good position in a satisfying place) - and with such rapture she spent money on pleasures that it caused me attacks of envy.

She could fly to a hairdresser in Paris for one day - and not because she had nowhere to put her money, but because she suddenly wanted to - and let everything burn, even the mortgage. I could go to Donetsk to see the war with my own eyes.

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And then she dropped everything and married Seryoga. Not Sergei - Seryoga. And she went with him to Murmansk. And she became a housewife. Our Seryoga is the owner of a transportation company. Earns modestly. Eight times less than Anya used to be. Serega does not have his own apartment. Seregin's friends say "drag". No more Peru or Sakhalin - Seryoga has no money for this. And Anya is happy. She is finally "like everyone else." She is a wife and has family difficulties. She is now listening to lectures about family life on the Internet and no longer flies to Paris for a haircut.

“Why ?! - we are surprised. - How so?!" Do you think that Seryoga is a handsome man or at least a macho man? Do you think he is a sex god?

No. Not handsome and not macho. This is a common creep. And sex does not particularly fascinate him - he is on a raw food diet, it saves energy.

" What for?!" - we all exclaim, friends of Ani. And once she confessed under torture: "He wanted to marry me."

There are a million thoughts in my head. What about the others? Didn't you want to? And you yourself didn't want to! She assured that you would not let anyone into your wonderful apartment, where everything is for you alone!

We remember: one was married, the other was too young, the third was too old, the fourth married another, whom Anya had no idea about, the fifth wanted a child, and when Anya thought she was pregnant (was not), demanded an abortion, because "not the time."

While Anya was brilliant, she talked about all this so cheerfully that it seemed: all these worries only amuse her. Oh, what men, if she has such wonderful life?

But it turned out that life had to be made wonderful - just not to notice that something was wrong with her men, that she was already thirty-two, and still not a single sensible marriage proposal, and the years go by, but you need to get married, but what about children, everything is empty.

And here's the question: is this desperate dream that at least someone will marry you - is it really worth your own? wonderful life? Is it really not even for the sake of crazy love, but precisely for the sake of the ring and the veil, one must give up everything, change oneself, go to the ends of the world - just to be a Spouse?

God, it’s so strange and sad when a brilliant girl leaves everything for a man ... for a sad man who has agreed to become her husband.

And suddenly you understand why Ani had all these love dramas. On the very first date, she looked into the man's eyes in search of an answer: "Will you marry me?" It's scary, yeah.

Painstaking calculations showed that Ani's men got worse each time. They became more and more insignificant, shittier, more grumpy. She decided to take this path - the more ordinary-looking the little man, the more chances she has. But, here's a surprise, it turned out that even the most unpretentious peasants are also scared, even if the most magic girl immediately wants to get married. (If a man after a week wanted me to marry - and I would be scared. This is not normal.)

It is clear that girls always blame men for everything. Like, this is a terrible world, men are rags, no one is ready for responsibility, for one decent - three thousand drunkards, lazy people and mumblers.

But, damn it, this is all just because a woman is still, in the 21st century, right in the heyday of enlightened feminism, she is not thinking about her pleasure, not about how great she is, not about how many amazing opportunities she gives her the world, but only: “Marry-marry-marry-marry. Die-die or get married. Marry-marry. " Seriously?!

Even before Serega, Anya was introduced to an amazing guy. She, of course, looked at him like a hairy caterpillar and spoke through her lip. "What?!" - her friend was angry. “He's too handsome. He's too rich. He's too stylish, "Anya grumbled, but now we realized that she was immediately scared that such wonderful man won't marry her right after dessert.

She became desperate and rejected all the cool men with whom she could have a great joyful relationship (and perhaps even a cherished wedding). Anya did not believe that she could drag an interesting and bright man to the registry office - she had "little time", she needed immediate guarantees. And, to be honest, she did not need any joy or a relationship at all - but only the registration of marriage.

Maybe Anya is a critical case, but, to be honest, not so few girls break their lives just for the sake of such matrimonial ideals. Give a man - or my life is incomplete! Not for the sake of sex, not for the sake of company - but only for the sake of "being." Where is my marriage, where is the wedding, the mediocre years spent, he is a villain, ahhh, I ruined my youth for him! Life in anticipation of marriage. Everyone is waiting and waiting, but happiness is not given.

Ahaha, look, look, here is a ring, here is a testimony, I am a Wife, a Wife, a Wife, one Satan, my, my, my, life is terrible, he is something sour, I don't want to go to Crimea, I want to Capri, where my seventeen, he has no willpower, he does not have this and that, whimper-whimper, I can’t do this anymore, I have to make children - and everything will work out ... Here is the scenario.

Experience suggests: if a girl has decided that she needs to marry with sweat and blood, then this cannot be cured. She will break her arms / legs, but she will achieve her goal. But those who are only in the first stage of this dangerous disease, think again! What will marriage change? Or so: what will change marriage with just anyone, with someone who is ready to marry “why not”, who simply feels doomed to it, because “everyone lives like this”? Who do you want to please?

Be glad to yourself. Enjoy your successes, your adventures, your joys. Your life is beautiful because you are there. Love is around us - feel it in everything, and not only in the man who deigned to pay attention to you. Such a pyramid of needs: me, me and me. Kiss your hands. And love everything sincerely - including men who are good for us not because they want to marry us, but because we spend happy moments with them, many of which can be brighter than whole life... And yes, this is what you will remember forever, and not at all a damn wedding, after which only a meaningless white dress drenched in wine will remain.