In our time, the custom of blessing newlyweds is not as popular as in the old days. Then the young people even canceled the wedding if their parents refused to bless them. And if they did not cancel, then the church could well refuse to hold a wedding for such a couple.

Maybe faith in God has faded somewhat, maybe the eternal wedding rush prevents this tradition from living, or maybe the fear of doing something wrong stops the parents. In any case, this is a good, light wedding tradition, and albeit not in all families, but for the most part it exists.

The rite of blessing is expressed in the parting word to the young and the wish of all earthly and unearthly blessings to the future husband and wife.

But parents do not always know how to properly conduct the blessing ceremony.

Let's try to figure out step by step what and how to do.

You will need:

Parental permission for the groom to marry.

The first thing a young man should do when he decides to marry is to ask permission from his parents.

Elders (matchmakers) are invited to his parental home, who, having received approval from the groom's mother and father, go home to the bride to ask for the blessing of her family.

The blessing of the girl's parents choice.

The matchmaking action takes place in the bride's house, where the matchmakers (parents, godfathers, close friends) are sent.

From the side of the bride, the guests are also met by matchmakers.

With these witnesses, lovers ask for parental blessings.

And in case of consent, the matchmakers are presented with bread on a towel, after which the young go to the stage of preparation for the wedding.

Rite of blessing on the day of the garden.

Everything is already prepared and the very day has come - the wedding day.

In the morning, before leaving for the bride, the parents of the young man bless him with the icon of Jesus Christ, which in the old days was inherited.

Now a new one is usually just bought. But if there is a family icon, it is better to take it, because it is already charged with the energy of grandmothers, grandfathers, and maybe grandparents.

The blessing rite looks like this:

1. Mother and father stand side by side opposite their son.
2. The father holds the icon of Jesus Christ on the towel.
3. According to old beliefs, the son should kneel.
4. The father baptizes his son with an icon and says his parting words to his son.
5. Then it is the mother's turn to take the icon and say important words to the son.

In the bride's house, the same actions take place, only with the girl. The image for the blessing of the daughter is taken by the Mother of God

When blessing, parents need to say words of parting words.

Whatever you want to wish and advise your adult child - say in blessing.

Put your soul into these words, do not mindlessly memorize poetry. Speak as best you can and as you know. The main thing is that your thoughts are pure, and then the family road of your children will be smooth.

Blessing of the bride's parents after the "ransom" ceremony.

Then comes the customary ritual - ransom. And so the groom with his "entourage" finally made his way to the bride, having solved all the intricate tasks and tasks.

1. The young couple and the bride's parents go to the room where the blessing is performed in private. For this, the icon of the Kazan Mother of God is used. Again, the icon is held on a towel. It is believed that this icon protects against war, misfortune and other bad weather.
2. Parents still sincerely wish the future family all the blessings that only exist in the world.
3. Children thank their father and mother.

Meanwhile, outside the house, guests are already waiting, who are ready to sprinkle the newlyweds with iron coins, wheat, rice, sweets, and thus also kind of bless the young.

A parental wish, a parting word, and especially a blessing, has special power in Christianity. After all, any message addressed by parents to their child can become fateful and affect the future life of the young. That is why today, as in ancient times, not a single wedding and wedding ceremony is complete without a parental blessing. They bless the bride and groom in order to approve the mutual choice of loving hearts, wish the happiest future life together and long years of marriage, and give a wise parting word to the nascent family.

How and where does the parental blessing take place, especially the ceremony?

There are only two options for how the father and mother from the groom's side, as well as the parents from the bride's side, can bless the lovers:

1. A modern rite, which is much simpler than the old one. More often the blessing occurs after the newlyweds walk around the city with witnesses... Parents meet their children at the very entrance to the cafe, banquet hall, house, depending on where the celebration takes place. In their hands they hold a fragrant loaf, with which they will honor the young, salt and wedding icons. After the solemn parental blessing speech, the newly formed family kisses the images and tastes the treats;
2. The second option, older and more faithful, corresponding to ancient traditions, according to which the blessing occurs twice... First, in the bride's house, from where the groom takes his future wife, after passing preliminary tests, where the girl's father and mother are allowed to marry their daughter and send a couple with a benevolent parting word and the first icon - the Image of the Virgin. The second time after visiting the registry office, according to the principle of the simplified version described earlier.

What images are appropriate for blessing young people?

The most traditional images that are considered the most powerful and powerful is the so-called wedding couple. The first icon represents the face of the Mother of God, who protects the family hearth and patronizes everyone who reads an honest and sincere prayer from her image. The second image is male, they bless the young, it depicts the Savior, who is a symbol of masculinity, wisdom and care for his other half.

The most frequently used icons in the ritual are the following faces:

1. - the most revered and strongest image. Prayer in this way can help in family happiness and well-being, resolve all disagreements between spouses, promote easy childbirth and long-awaited pregnancy, heal every family member from serious ailments. She is blessed by her fiancee by her parents before going to the registry office;
2. - male icon. With her, the groom's parents, together with the matchmakers, bless the already established married couple for a happy and long marriage without sorrows and troubles. This icon is considered miraculous, and sincere prayer in front of the face of Jesus can help in solving all problems, bestows family well-being and mutual understanding.
3. As blessing images, you can also use those who are considered patrons of family well-being. Therefore, the Kazan icon can always be replaced with the no less significant Vladimir icon. And the image of the Almighty is sometimes changed to.

The blessing of the bride's mother (as well as the groom's parents) is a very beautiful ceremony that came to us from ancient times. Then they attached great importance to it. If the words of the bride's mother's blessing were not spoken, earlier the bride and groom were not allowed to get married in the church. In addition, the girl was disinherited and shamed in society.

Nowadays, the words of the blessing of the mother of the bride no longer have such significance, but the parental message still plays a big role for the newlyweds. It's always nice to hear the corresponding words, won't you agree?

Parting words. Blessing of the bride's mother in front of the registry office. Parents' words

Parents bless their children before entering the banquet hall. This already happens after the newlyweds are greeted with a loaf, wine, bread and salt.

However, this version of the ceremony is simplified. Some families still prefer to honor ancient traditions. According to them, the bride should hear parting words. The blessing of the bride's mother in front of the registry office, the words of the parents - all this should happen twice. The first time - just before the wedding. This is done in the father's house before leaving for the registry office. Moreover, the parents of the bride and groom bless their children separately. Then the young can already go to the painting. The second blessing is in the banquet hall.

Which icon is used to bless the bride

One of the most revered images of the Mother of God is still our ancestors believed in her magic and miraculous power. It is she who is of particular importance for the fair sex, especially for the bride. Before the registry office, the mother must definitely bless her daughter with the icon of the Mother of God.

Seeing off the bride at the registry office

Seeing off to the registry office is a special ritual that the father must perform. The groom should not be around, everything should only take place between the bride's parents and the bride herself. Parting words are spoken, the girl is blessed with the icon of the Mother of God.

Which icon is used to bless the groom

The groom is blessed This is the most common image of Christ. In one hand he has a book, and with the other hand he blesses the person who is looking at him. The Savior is asked for prosperity in the family. Previously, it was this icon that was brought into the house of the spouses first. Now the groom's parents use her to bless their son for a happy marriage.

Parting words for the groom to the registry office

While the bride receives a blessing from her parents, a ritual is also performed in the groom's house. The table is covered with a snow-white tablecloth. They put bread on it, put salt and water next to it, a burning candle. The groom kneels down and receives a blessing from his parents. The father takes his son by the hand and leads him three times around the set table. The mother should follow them, holding the icon of the Savior and a candle in her hands. Thus, the son receives support not only from his parents, but also from his whole family. After that, the groom can go after the bride.

mother of the bride

Who will hold the loaf? Who will say parting words to the newlyweds? Who should contact them first? A lot of time is spent trying to assign these roles. Although it is worth noting that there is no single rule on this matter. Let's consider several options for the distribution of roles (go from left to right).

Possible options

The icon is held by the father of the groom, next to the loaf is the mother of the bride. Other parents just sit around

Mothers of the newlyweds hold icons, and fathers - champagne and a loaf

In the hands of one mother is an icon, the other is a loaf. Fathers just stand on their sides

One mother has a loaf, the other has a fold. Fathers stand on the sides and hold glasses of champagne

Parental blessings to the bride and groom

Blessing the mother of the bride at a wedding is a very important ritual. However, it doesn't really matter what is said. It is much more important that all words come from the very heart, so that the parting words are sincere. Only then will children be truly happy, and a life filled with happiness, joy and children's laughter will await ahead.

What they usually want:

well-being in the family,

long years of happy marriage,

health to newlyweds and their children,

happiness in your own home.

By the way, the words of blessing the bride and groom should receive not only from their parents, but also from each other's parents. There is a belief that such an alliance will only become even stronger. It is not for nothing that after the wedding, young people call each other's parents "mom" and "dad".

What to do for the bride and groom with icons after the wedding

The bride must definitely keep the icon that her mother blessed with before painting. The groom should do the same. Newlyweds should keep them in their home as valuable. Usually they are wrapped in a towel and hidden away from prying eyes. This is a personal value, this is the blessing of the parents.

You cannot hold icons with your bare hands. They say that this is a bad omen. Therefore, it is very important not to forget to purchase towels. The newlyweds will then be able to cover the icons with them and put them in their special place in the house. In addition, the towel is useful for the loaf.

According to an old custom, parents first have to cross the bride and groom with the icon three times before the registry office, then the children kiss the icon. The same ceremony is repeated in the banquet hall. Today this custom is very rarely followed. However, if this is important for future spouses, then it is better to follow all the rules.

If it was decided that in the banquet hall the icon would be in the hands of one of the fathers, it would be better to explain to him in advance all the subtleties of the upcoming ritual. The fact is that men do not always pay special attention to this and can get confused at the most inopportune moment.

When the newlyweds receive parting words of blessing from their parents before and after the registry office, they must definitely kneel down.

Sometimes it happens that one of the newlyweds may not have a mother or father. In this case, the godparents must bless.

The ceremony of blessing the newlyweds is very difficult, but interesting. Some couples miss it, but in vain. Parents are the most important people in any person's life. They gave life, brought up and were always there - both in sorrow and in joy. There is nothing stronger than their sincere blessing. It is believed that young families who decided to observe traditions and received these holy parting words lived in a happy marriage.

The mother's blessing of her child has a very strong protective power, a kind of amulet. Mother's love protects from trouble and disease. Blessing your daughter before the wedding is a special ceremony, a custom that goes back to time immemorial. This tradition is used by people all over the world, regardless of skin color and religion. In addition, a blessing at a wedding is one of the most touching and exciting events for both the newlywed parents and the newlyweds. Thus, the mother shows that she agrees with the choice of her child. Without the parents' disposition to the bride or groom, their union is unlikely to be completely happy, because, willy-nilly, they will have to communicate with relatives. They can either support a young family or interfere with their happiness. A wise mother will accept the choice of her daughter, otherwise she risks being to blame for her future misfortunes.

In Slavic culture, there are several stages and ways of receiving blessings. In ancient Russia, blessings were given even during matchmaking, before the wedding. Today, in a classic wedding, the blessing is given before the official wedding ceremony. You can bless only after the groom has passed all the tests and when he shows his chosen one to the guests and gives the ransom for her.

There are several ways to receive a blessing:

• verbally, face to face,
• in writing when a mother gives a written blessing to her child. The written letter is then burned, but the time and day when it was written is remembered. This is followed by 7 days of reading "Prayer after the blessing of the child."
• the child takes the written blessing from the mother himself, or rather writes the letter himself, expressing all the most intimate in it, and then burns it.

Before that, you should read the prayer "For your child."

For the blessing, you will need an icon, which the mother transfers to a new family, where she will play the role of a relic. Although there are no clear canons of the church in this regard, it is customary to bless girls with an icon of the Mother of God. You can take any other icon that has been kept in your home for more than one generation.

When all the necessary conventions are met, the bride and groom stand in front of the mother. The words of the mother, when blessing her daughter before the wedding, sound when she holds the icon in her hands, turning her face to the young. No special words need to be memorized, they must be sincere. The touching congratulations to the newlyweds for the wedding from their parents will be remembered for a lifetime. The wishes should not only concern the daughter, they also apply to the groom. If, in addition to painting in the registry office, a wedding is planned, this icon should be taken with you to the church.

Here are some options for a mother's blessing for her daughter before the wedding:

“I am a believing mother, I pray to the Lord, I give blessings to my daughter. I bless my daughter for her life with her husband. God save you from resentment and quarrels, may St. Nicholas the Wonderworker pray for you. I bless you with all my heart. "

“This is my blessing to the bride and groom for the marriage union. Live in harmony, kindness and peace. Remember, the Lord is crowning you, and Saint Nicholas the Wonderworker begs him. I give you a blessing. "

“I wish you to live in harmony and happiness. Be glad to your own and others' successes, understand and accept your soul mate for what it is. I wish you all the best that the Almighty can give. "

“I wish you to love each other, to be generous with kindness. Be one whole and accept all the gifts of God with an open heart and gratitude. "

“My daughter, I bless you for a long and happy life, prosperity, family happiness. Be healthy and loved. Amen"

“Formal” blessing is not the only responsibility of the mother, she supports her daughter long before the wedding, helps to dispel unnecessary doubts and worries, participates in organizing the event and supports her in every possible way, can suggest original ideas for a bachelorette party before the wedding.

Gifts for the newlyweds for the wedding from their parents are also a kind of wish for happiness, because they already know for sure what will be useful for the young most in their family life.

In modern life, ancient traditions are used that have been perfected over millennia. One thing remains unchanged - a mother's blessing was considered and is still considered a powerful protection from all sorrows and troubles.

October 30, 2015

Blessing the bride's mother (and her groom's parents) is a wonderful ceremony that has come to us from ancient times. Then they attached great importance to him. If the words of the blessing of the mother of the bride were not spoken, earlier the bride and groom were not allowed to get married in the church. In addition, the girl was disinherited and shamed in society.

Nowadays, the words of the blessing of the mother of the bride no longer have such significance, but parental advice still plays a huge role for the newlyweds. Hearing the corresponding words is invariably pleasant, agree?

Parting words. Blessing of the bride's mother in front of the registry office. The words of their parents

At modern weddings, parents bless their children before entering the banquet hall. This already happens at the end of the marriage. The newlyweds are greeted with a loaf, wine, bread and salt.

But this version of the ceremony is simplified. Some families still prefer to honor ancient traditions. According to them, the bride is obliged to hear parting words. The blessing of the bride's mother in front of the registry office, the words of their parents, all this should happen twice. The first time just before the wedding. This is done in the father's house before leaving for the registry office. Moreover, the parents of the bride and groom bless their children separately. Later, young people will be able to go to the painting. The second blessing in the banquet hall.

What icon is used to bless the bride

One of the most revered images of the Mother of God is the Kazan Icon of the Mother of God. The ancestors also believed in her magic and miraculous power. It is she who is of particular importance for women, especially for the bride. In front of the registry office, mom in mandatory is obliged to bless her daughter with the icon of the Mother of God.

Seeing off the bride at the registry office

Seeing off at the registry office is a special ritual that dad must perform. The groom should not be around, everything should only take place between the bride herself and the bride's parents. Parting words are spoken, the woman is blessed with the icon of the Mother of God.

Then dad takes his daughter by the hand and walks her around the table three times. This should be done clockwise. Then the dad takes the bride to the groom and hands her over.

What icon is used to bless the groom

The groom is blessed with the icon of the Savior. This is the most popular depiction of Christ. In one hand he has a book, and with the other hand he blesses the person who is watching him. The Savior is prayed for prosperity in the family. Previously, it was this icon that was brought into the house of the spouses first. at the moment, the groom's parents are using it to bless their son for a joyful marriage.

Parting words for the groom to the registry office

While the bride receives a blessing from her parents, a ritual is also performed in the groom's house. The table is covered with a tablecloth white as snow. They put bread on it, put salt and water next to it, a burning candle. The groom is kneeled and blessed by his parents. Dad takes his son by the hand and leads him around the table three times. The mother is obliged to follow them, holding the icon of the Savior and a candle in her hands. So, the son receives support not only from his parents, but also from his whole family. Then the groom can go after the bride.

Blessing of the young mother of the bride

Who will hold the loaf? Who will say parting words to the newlyweds? Who should contact them first? Quite a lot of time is spent in order to assign these roles. Despite the fact that it must be emphasized that there is no single rule on this matter. Let's consider a couple of options for the distribution of roles (go from left to right).

Possible options

The icon is held by the groom's father, next to the loaf is the bride's mother. Other parents nearby

Mothers of the newlyweds hold icons, and fathers champagne and a loaf

One mother is holding an icon, another is holding a loaf. Fathers on the sides

One mother has a loaf, the other has a fold. Fathers stand on the sides and hold glasses of champagne

Parental blessings to the bride and groom

Blessing the mother of the bride at a wedding is a very important ritual. However, in reality, what is said does not really matter. It is much more responsible, so that all words come from the very heart, so that the parting words are sincere. Only then will the children be truly joyful, and a life filled with happiness, euphoria and children's laughter will await ahead.

What in most cases they want:

well-being in the family,

long years of joyful marriage,

health to newlyweds and their children,

happiness at home.

By the way, the words of blessing the bride and groom should take not only from their parents, but also from each other's parents. There is a belief that such an alliance will only grow stronger. It is not in vain that at the end of the wedding, young people call their parents each other mom and dad.

What to do for the bride and groom with icons at the end of the wedding

The bride is obliged to preserve the icon that her mother blessed with before painting. The groom should do the same. Newlyweds should keep them at home as a useful home relic. In most cases, they are wrapped in a towel and hidden away from prying eyes. This is a personal value, this is the blessing of your parents.

It is forbidden to hold icons without any weapons. They say that this is not a good omen. Based on this, it is extremely important not to forget to buy towels. The newlyweds will later be able to cover the icons with them and put them in their special place in the house. In addition, a towel is also needed for a loaf.

According to an old custom, parents first have to cross the bride and groom with the icon three times before the registry office, later the children kiss the icon. The same ceremony is repeated in the banquet hall. Now this custom is very rarely followed. But if this is fundamentally important for future spouses, then it is better to follow all the rules.

If it was decided that in the banquet hall the icon would be in the hands of one of the fathers, it is better to explain to him in advance all the subtleties of the upcoming ritual. The fact is that men do not always pay special attention to this and can get confused at the most inopportune moment.

At the time when the newlyweds receive parting words of blessing from their parents before and at the end of the registry office, they must necessarily kneel.

From time to time it happens that one of the newlyweds has an incomplete family. Maybe there is no mother or father. Under such conditions, the godparents must bless without fail.

The ceremony of blessing the newlyweds is very difficult, but exciting. Some domestic couples miss it, but in vain. Parents are the most serious people in the life of any person. They gave life, brought up and were there invariably in grief and euphoria. There is nothing stronger than their sincere blessing. It is believed that young families, which decided to observe traditions and took these holy parting words, lived in a joyful marriage.