At the school where I work, there is a class where the teachers go to work in a not very happy mood. There are 30 children in this class. And we know that now many children are hyperactive, very nimble, active, and also... not very well-mannered. And among these 30 there are six or seven such students. And it is not surprising that they are often violators of discipline in the classroom. Some guys support them, others try to restore order in the classroom, calming down the rioters. The result is a general noise consisting of thirty voices. And you need a large supply of knowledge, patience, and understanding to find the keys for each child. After all, it is important for the teacher that all thirty know what a noun is, how to open parentheses correctly, or where the Pacific Ocean is.

This is where being attentive helps, respectful attitude to the child. The attitude is not as to a person brought up, but as to a person. To a person who can offer a wise solution in some matters. For example, at school, when organizing presidential elections, one of the presidential candidates suggested choosing “a leader, not a president,” because “we will all work together anyway, whoever has time does the work, and the leader coordinates the work.” After all, a person thinks correctly. At school, the main work is studying. And the skill of social activities in school years are received by those who want to help teachers in the educational process. And in this process different stages, anyone can become a leader in different events.
So it is in this class: upon careful acquaintance with the children, their weak and strengths. One needs to be supported with praise, another must be forgiven for an unlearned lesson, the third must be told that the teacher makes comments for his benefit, that for the remark one should say “thank you”, the third, when working on a poem, quickly found a rhyme, which means that he should be given the task of writing a poem, oh mom, for example. And then every child feels needed by the teacher, he tries to be better, he is ashamed of not completing the task. One of the kids (not very disciplined) was tasked with checking every day before class to check with a group of children whether their notebooks had written homework assignments. One day the teacher finds out that the inspector himself did not do his homework. The teacher forgave, on the condition that this would not happen again. The inspired child again began checking his classmates’ notebooks. This situation repeated itself twice more, but the teacher patiently listened to the reason and with understanding allowed me to continue working. Now the guy does all his homework himself and keeps others under control.
Our children are a reflection of their parents. It is also important to help parents establish contact with their child. When the mother of one of the girls in this class came and said that she was a “B student” at school, and that’s why the child had problems, the teacher was surprised. The girl had no problems with learning - she was a smart child, but had problems with discipline. And when the mother began to bring the girl to school so that she would not be late, when the mother did not become lazy at least to check the availability of homework, the girl became much more cheerful, she became less aggression, her classmates reached out to her.
I read somewhere that if a person spends 2.5 hours daily at the computer, then average duration life at 70 years old, we will spend 6 years of our life on a computer. And in a survey of parents, the question “How much time do you spend communicating with your child?” the answer was received: on average about 30-40 minutes per day. I think comments are unnecessary.
It is very important that our children feel our attention, feel the interest of an adult in their life. Not only in learning, but in life. To relate to little man It was like an attitude towards a person who has his own interests, his own understanding of the current moment. Then every minute of communication with the child, both in class and outside of class, will bring only joy.

23/08/03, talebetka
Carnegie and Weller should be burned in the first trash container you come across, they have nothing to do with it. Everything they wrote on this topic is obvious, and has been known to people since the time of the king of peas. If we are to be attentive, then it should be sincere, on our own, without book tips. I don’t even know what contributes to this. Apparently, some kind of inner desire, respect, maybe good upbringing. By the way, selfless attention is very rare. The same Carnegie teaches to be attentive only for the purpose of receiving attention in return.

23/08/03, talebetka
And why should I agree that attention to people is always determined by selfish motives? 0 – this implies the statement that all people are selfish. Maybe so, in every human act, with desire and dexterity, selfishness is seen. Some have become so trained in this vision that it is impossible to dissuade them. (the harmful influence of books. Hehe.) 1 - Yes, truisms, which are familiar to everyone, but not everyone follows them - the truths. Because it is not always convenient, necessary, profitable, simple, etc. Where are these people, where are these people... Where are the people who read Carnegie. Do you have any guarantee that at least 30% of the people who seemed attentive to you have studied Carnegie? 2 – oh, this is where the harmful influence of literature comes into play. “Ah, I did a good deed. What a great fellow I am, how significant I am.” The brain gives a signal, the body rejoices for half an hour, or an hour, or 2.. is that right? Hehe. 3 – I will no longer consume pretentious phrases, point 3 repeats point 0.

25/08/03, Brom
Man, by nature, requires attention to his person. Therefore, you need to treat people accordingly, with attention (and understanding, of course): every hour inquire about the health of your loved ones (they will be imbued with your concern), at night (as often as possible) call your friends and unobtrusively ask if everything is calm and if you are sleeping soundly ( after receiving an affirmative answer, sigh with relief and wish Good night), convene collective(!) meetings to solve problems in the personal life of one of your comrades, help others in absolutely EVERYTHING, especially(!) when no one asks for it (this is only out of politeness, don’t hesitate), strongly give others advice and feel free to demand that you follow them, and finally remember: EVERYONE will appreciate your attention when you surprise a friend in the form of an unexpected visit ( shining example for imitation - Winnie the Pooh) - believe me!

25/08/03, Nafanya
I don’t know.. It’s probably great when, through the frantic rhythms of life, someone remembers you and your problems. Attentive means sensitive, that is, say, when you feel bad, an attentive person will not sit and itch: “Poor you, poor! How I understand you! Last week I had ..”, he will understand that such a market is for you I don’t need you now, I’ll just sit next to you and hold your hand. And good.

06/05/04, Offended Sporty
I love it when people treat me attentively, especially when visiting me when I’m shy :)

11/12/08, idiosyncrasy
Observation, study, noticing flaws, detection weak points and everything that can be used against them in the future - also attention. Attentiveness is necessary for interaction that is most adequate to their properties, self-defense and not causing unnecessary harm to others. At least for the pursuit of all this, since in the absolute it is impossible.

16/12/09, Nobunaga
Everyone needs attention, care... But not everyone pays attention to it))

Letters to his son Chesterfield Philip Dormer Stanhope

LVII (Tact. Attentive attitude towards people)

(Tact. Attentive attitude towards people)

Dear friend!

‹…› Here is my other urgent advice to you: not only in Germany, but in general in any country to which you ever happen to go, you must not only be attentive to everyone who speaks to you, but also do so so that your interlocutor feels this attention. The worst offense is obvious inattention to the person who is telling you something, and it is the most difficult to forgive this offense. But I happened to know people who degraded themselves in the eyes of others because of some awkward antics, in my opinion, not at all as offensive as the outrageous inattention that I am talking about. In my life I have seen many people who, when you talk to them, instead of looking at you and listening to you carefully, stare at the ceiling or somewhere in the corner, look out the window, play with a dog, twirl a snuff box in their hands, or picking their nose. This is the most sure sign a petty, frivolous and empty person, and also ill-mannered; by this you frankly admit that every most insignificant subject is more worthy of your attention than everything that can be said by your interlocutor. Judge for yourself how much indignation and even hatred will fill the heart of someone who has even the slightest bit of self-love with such behavior. And I can say with confidence that I have never met a person who lacks it. I repeat to you again and again (for you absolutely need to remember this) - this kind of vanity and pride are inseparable from the nature of man, whatever his position or title; even your own lackey, and he will sooner forget and forgive you cuffs than obvious neglect and contempt. Therefore, I ask you, not only be attentive, but also know how to show every person who speaks to you, obvious and noticeable attention, Furthermore, be able to pick up his tone and tune yourself into his mood. Be serious with a serious person, cheerful with a cheerful person and frivolous with a carminative person. As you take on these different guises, try to look at ease in each of them, to act as if it comes naturally to you. This is that real and useful flexibility that is acquired by a thorough knowledge of the world, which opens a person’s eyes both to its benefits and to how to acquire this flexibility.

I am sure and, in any case, I hope that you will never use stupid words that fools and stupid people are very fond of, absurdly trying to justify themselves with them: “I can’t do this,” when we're talking about about things that are neither due to physical nor due to moral reasons are not impossible. “I can’t pay attention to one thing for a long time,” says one fool: it only means that he’s such a fool that he can’t. I remember a hulk who didn’t know where to put his sword, and every time he used to take it off before dinner, saying that he couldn’t possibly eat dinner when he had his sword. Once I couldn’t resist and told him that this could be done without endangering myself or others. It is shameful and absurd to say that you are not able to do what all the people around you do every day.

There is one more vice that I must warn you against - laziness: nothing, perhaps, prevented people from spending their travels so profitably. Please, always be on the move. In the morning, get up early and explore the city, and in the afternoon try to see more people. If you only have to stay for a week in some very small town, still see everything there is to see there, get to know some people, maybe a large number people and visit all the houses you can.

I also advise you, although perhaps you have already thought about it yourself, to always carry in your pocket a map of Germany, on which all the postal roads are marked, as well as some kind of short guide. Looking at a map, you will remember the locations of individual places and the distances between them, and from a guidebook you will learn about many attractions that you should see and which might otherwise escape your attention;

although in themselves they may not mean so much, you will later regret that you visited these cities and did not see them.

Now you are prepared for the journey and warned about everything, and may God protect you. Felix faustumque sit! Goodbye.

LVII. The state is governed by correctness. Exceptionalism is where wars are fought. By non-influence - the Celestial Empire is conquered. How do I know that this is so? Here's where it comes from: in the Celestial Empire, taboos and prohibitions are multiplying - the people are mired in poverty; the people multiply the weapons - in