Steps

Keep your confidence. If you show insecurity about your orientation, people may think that being bisexual is just a temporary stage in your life and that in fact you are not sure who you really are. If you beat around the bush, people will decide that you are ashamed, and this may lead your loved ones to think that you cannot decide and that you need their help. But no one can change if doesn't want this. If you are completely confident in your orientation, it will be easier for people to accept it.

Think about who you want to tell first. As a general rule, it's easiest to tell someone you have confidence in and who will support you - for example, close friend or a girlfriend. Supporting such a person will relieve your insecurities and make it easier to accept the need to tell others about it.

Decide whether to tell your parents about it now. If you are completely dependent on your parents and are not sure that they will take your news well, postpone it until you become more independent.

Remember that not all people clearly understand what it means to be bisexual. Some may think that you just want to attract attention, others that you are homosexual, but refuse to admit it. Answer all statements that you are attracted to the personality of the person, and not his gender. Do not allow dual interpretations of who or what you are, what you want to say and why you are explaining it.

Don't be nervous and be rational. Be confident in what you say and explain that it is just a part of you and that being in harmony with yourself brings you joy.

1. Be proud of who you are. You shouldn't be ashamed of your sexual orientation - it's just one small part of what makes up your personality.

   • If people allow themselves incorrect statements, do not let them confuse or upset you. Ask why they feel this way and explain that you value their opinion, but that you are perfectly comfortable being who you are. People capable of boorish comments most often speak without thinking.
   • In your circle of friends, try to present your bisexuality as something that should not be given much attention. Some are helped by jokes on themselves and their peculiarity. However, do not get carried away with humor, because your friends may think that you are telling this for the sake of laughter. Keep a certain amount of seriousness - so you can explain to your friends that this is not weakness, and this will actually be the case.
   • Try to draw as little attention to this feature of your personality as possible. If you treat your bisexuality as something normal and ordinary, others will less reason return to this topic. Be open about the fact that you are not embarrassed by your sexual orientation.
   • Don't stress that you are not homosexual. It only reinforces the feeling that you are hiding something. Better talk about how now that you've realized your bisexuality, you feel much better and more confident in yourself; that you don't know who you'll be hooked up with serious relationship, but whoever this person is, you are glad that you understand yourself well and that you are open to everything.
   • Don't worry if you realize you misunderstood your sexuality in the past. If you've been gay before, you can say that you now know that you're attracted to people of both sexes. This will help people understand why you are talking about your sexuality. again.
   • Smile. This will give you confidence and will help you avoid unnecessary tension. Thanks to this, your friends will believe that there is nothing strange or wrong in your peculiarity, and they will treat you the same way.
   • Take a couple of deep breaths and tell everything clearly and without hesitation. It's better than mumbling and trying to hush up the conversation. Look at it from the other side: is it really a problem that you have heterosexual friends?
   • If you can joke, then do it! So your friends will more easily perceive your news and be able to fully accept it.
   • If someone mentions your sexual orientation in a conversation, respond calmly and without aggression. V otherwise people will think you are ashamed of yourself.
   • In conversations, present bisexuality as just one of the ordinary facts of your biography. You can use phrases like this: "I will express my opinion from the point of view of a 32-year-old bisexual man. I believe that ...". This will divert attention from your orientation and move the conversation to another topic.

   Warnings

   • Some of your friends may get scared and think that you see them as a sex object. Explain that friends are friends, and that the fact that you are attracted to people of the same sex does not mean that you are attracted to all members of that sex, just as heterosexuality does not mean that you are attracted to all members of the opposite sex.
   • Not all people will be ready to accept your orientation. There will be those who will treat you with prejudice, but do not let them stop you in your intentions. What others think matters much more. less value than your own feelings and thoughts.

This theme is inspired breaking news show business that I watched. It seems to me that heterosexual couples will soon be pointed with the finger and, as a result, they will be listed in the red book. Everyone lives with everyone, however, statistics stubbornly states that the number of homosexual couples in the world at all times remains constant: eight to ten percent.

Female bisexuality? Have you heard? Do you know? Tried? Not? “Then you are behind the times!” Well, it's true: literally, every lady who has experience of intimate communication with a woman strives to boast to her boyfriend about it. And the more she relishes the details in her story, the better. Men are very turned on!

Almost all of us are a little "bi"

Most famous psychologists of the world are simply sure of this statement. After the birth, the mother for the child is the first and for a long time the only source of pleasure. She feeds, caresses, bathes, kisses. And no matter how much you say that the theory is close to absurdity, there is still truth in this.

And some scientists are completely sure that after some time the population of the earth will generally be of the same sex and much happier than now. Well, that's right! How many problems will disappear! No suffering, worries and intrigues!

Causes of bisexuality

There are several prerequisites for loving both boys and girls:

1. I tried and did not remain indifferent. As a rule, this happens by chance after intimate gatherings with a bottle of wine.

2. I am not worse than others. A woman is designed in such a way that she needs everything that her friends have, what is captured on Instagram and what the media talks about and writes about. If they write about it, then there is nothing wrong with it - she decides and at the first opportunity she gives herself to same-sex caresses with her friend.

3. A woman needs more emotions than a man can give her. Hence the signs of bisexuality, as well as the reluctance to give up not from same-sex relationships, nor from male caresses.

Much has been written about the causes of female bisexuality. But the essence remains the same. This is the desire to experiment, and the abundance of feminist movements, and what to hide, the lack of men. It is interesting that most of the fair sex, up to a certain point, are not even aware of a tendency to bisexuality. But being at a certain hour under favorable circumstances, a girl can feel such thrill that will make bisexuality a way of life.

How do you become bisexual?

Of all the types of orientation, it is bisexuality that they try to keep secret, so they are not visible in the crowd, while homosexual couples have long united in movements and communities. It would be foolish to believe that they are born with it. Moreover, if for completely gay is acceptable, then bisexuality appears with the acquisition of experience and is formed due to the characteristics of each person. At one time, the appearance of bisexuality was conditionally divided into stages:

First confusion;

Internal search for an explanation of what is happening;

Adaptation;

Uncertainty that can go on for quite some time.

Now, if there was such a community or movement, last point could have been avoided. Often, uncertainty can even develop into biphobia.

If you suddenly have a question: to try or not, I will say for myself that I would most likely decide. After all, having been on the “other side of the barricades”, first of all, I will be able to understand my man more, and, in part, myself too. Love each other, create and experiment!

And especially rare woman share these thoughts with the man you love. However, perhaps there is not a single woman who would never think about it.

So what brings us to think about female bisexuality? Let's let's try to figure it out together with Beautiful and Successful– without false shame and prejudices!

Why are we thinking about this?

Any of us at least once thought with horror: “What if I ... THIS MOST ?!”. The most common reasons for this thought:

• Erotic fantasies or dreams. You don’t jump from the window of a high-rise building in the morning, if at night you dreamed that you could fly? So do not arrange long soul-searching after having a dream “about THIS”!
• Sexual arousal that comes after viewing erotic photos or videos with girls. Actually, this is normal. A rare hypocrite has never been excited looking at something like that in her life. 99% of women in reality would not have experienced any sympathy for the girls depicted in these photographs (not that sexual attraction!), so there is no question of any female bisexuality here!
• Admiring female beauty. You are happy to comb soft long hair friends, celebrate nice shape breasts of a passenger on the bus, do you like to smack your girlfriends on the lips when you meet? As a rule, these pleasant moments have nothing to do with female bisexuality - beauty is beauty, and if a friend’s well-groomed lips are more pleasant to the touch than your boyfriend’s three-day stubble, then this is not a reason to be ashamed of your thoughts!

But sometimes it happens that a woman diligently inspires herself with the thought of her bisexuality. What for? V in general terms, such behavior is usually an unconscious protest against certain life circumstances. What is reasons for "fictitious" female bisexuality? Usually:

• Dislike for men. This sometimes happens with "chronic loners" who (according to different reasons) for a long time can not arrange their personal lives. And the woman harbors a grudge against the entire male tribe: “Oh, they are so-and-so, hairy and bow-legged, and I can do without them!” At the same time, she does not experience sexual attraction to representatives of her own sex - a woman perceives bisexuality as an "act of retribution." Usually such thoughts are forgotten as soon as at least some gentleman begins to loom on the personal horizon. But especially desperate ladies sometimes look for (and find!) adventures on their own heads, which usually end in bitter disappointment, a feeling of something dirty and not at all what they dreamed about.
• Girlfriend or ... lover? It happens that two friends who have collapsed on the personal front decide to declare “war on the peasants”. And now it begins to seem to them that the two of them feel good: it’s interesting to communicate, to spend time together fun, there is both trust and mutual understanding ... But, of course, intimate life no substitute for talking! There comes a moment (for example, after a glass of something like that), when both can decide on a bold act. True, this way you can destroy friendship, and not get pleasure!
• I'm not like this! Female bisexuality as a form of protest against society and circumstances is usually chosen young girls having no real rich sexual experience. It's just a desire to stand out from the crowd - along with exotic outfits, outrageous behavior, etc. Most likely, such shocking will end with growing up and realizing the fallacy of this path.

How to check it?

There are probably very few situations when it is worth arranging at least some kind of “life” check. It is worth doing this only if you really notice in yourself the ability to treat a representative of your gender in the same way as a man - not only desire physically, but also fall in love(with all the accompanying "symptoms" - waiting for a meeting, wanting to do something nice, etc.).

AND initial stage"diagnosis" should be frank " self-examination”: “Am I capable of this?". Probably not!

What if you are inclined to answer “Yes”?

First, say "Thank you!" for not living in the Middle Ages! V modern society you have the freedom of your personal life, whatever it may be- everything that is done with the consent of an adult partner (partner) is legal and possible. Now bisexual women are not sent to the stake!

But what to do with it anyway? by the most right decision will... do nothing! Don't rush right off the bat into the whirlpools of sites for bisexuals or go for dubious acquaintances in specialized clubs.

Wait. Perhaps in your life one will appear by itself that will translate your thoughts into a more “objective” channel. And if not? Men haven't died yet either!

I love her!

But maybe what made you think about female bisexuality was that you, as you think, in love with a specific girl.

Advice Beautiful and Successful: do not rush to conclusions! What you take for can be strong, admiration for her as a person, her charm and charm, even heavily veiled envy. A real feeling must stand the test of time!

But if you are still sure ... The same awaits you as all lovers of all times and peoples - excitement, recognition, meeting and separation ... To begin with - tell her about it! If you are sincere at the same time, she is unlikely to laugh or condemn you!

And what is it - bisexuality?

is a type sexual orientation . That is, the thing is unchanged throughout life. And if you just fantasize about something like that or even have experience sexual relations with a woman then this is not a reason declare yourself bisexual!

Actually, a woman of bisexual orientation is able to create a full-fledged couple (or even a family!) with another woman just like with a man - to be faithful, to make plans for the future ... And if she "seriously" takes only men, and intimate relationship with girls they remain isolated, one-time cases - this is something else, which, unlike bisexuality, has completely different motives!

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Today, when non-traditional sexual orientation is considered the norm in many countries, some people justify the emergence of homosexual and bisexual relationships. Even many experts are convinced that female nature Bisexual by nature, so this behavior is not something unique or wrong. However, most people still think female bisexuality abnormal. But still, if it exists, you need to try to understand the reasons for its occurrence.

What's happened female bisexuality

There is a clear definition of bisexual individuals. These are people who are experiencing sex drive both to members of the opposite sex and to members of the same sex. At the same time, it is not uncommon for women who have had serious relationships with men to suddenly leave them and start an affair with a female partner. This behavior is considered by many to be non-standard and biologically unsound. After all, such a couple cannot continue the race.

In nature, among animals and birds, manifestations bisexuality extremely rare. Females of some biological species (penguins, gulls) form temporary unions, but only in the absence of males. When representatives of the opposite sex appear, everything immediately falls into place, the unions of females break up forever.

Causes of non-standard behavior in people

Previously, when representatives of sexual minorities were persecuted, and the public and the church condemned such behavior, it was impossible to even approximately determine the existing percentage of bisexual women. They carefully concealed their inclinations. Today, statistics show that the percentage of bisexual women is at least 20, and according to some sources, it reaches up to 30%. And their number is steadily growing.

What is the reason for the growth bisexuality? There are many opinions. Some talk about the special genetic disposition of women who have both female and male sex chromosomes. From this it is concluded that all women should be equally bisexual. However, this is not the case.

Another cause of bisexuality is the relationship between girls in childhood. Often the relationship of girlfriends is very reminiscent of a romantic relationship, and if it lasts long enough, it can become a reason for non-traditional orientation. However, all girls have girlfriends in childhood, but not all of them become bisexual.

Studies have shown that the most bisexuality It manifests itself precisely in those women who communicated with already determined bisexual women. And this is not always the case either. Such behavior appears in those who have fallen under unconventional influence. How can communication affect the formation of sexual desire? To understand this, you need to listen to the opinion of a psychologist.

What do psychologists think

Psychologists also have different opinions on this matter. Let's not listen to the opinion of those who believe that women are divided into established bisexual women and those whose unconventional inclinations have not yet manifested themselves. There are also more interesting opinions. For example, some experts believe that libido consists of two components: an unconditioned and a conditioned reflex. Wherein conditioned reflex established with certain external factors and can in some cases suppress the unconditional.

So, if a girl grows up on a desert island without contact with people, then, turning into a woman, she will experience sexual attraction only to men. But that usually doesn't happen. What if she is in contact with different people then their authority exerts on her big influence. And if she is timid by nature, then, looking at confident and liberated bisexual women, she can very easily fall under the influence and adopt their behavior.

The ability to experience platonic or romantic feelings, physical attraction to people not only of the opposite, but also of the same sex, is called bisexuality. At the same time, a bisexual person does not have to have feelings for both sexes at the same time. Having this species sexual orientation, a person can different periods their lives to reach out to representatives of one sex or another.

Today bisexuality of people is not a deviation. Moreover, if earlier men and women carefully concealed their “unusual” needs, today it is exposed openly and is even considered fashionable.

Bisexuality: causes

There are three main reasons why bisexuality has a place in the life of any person.

Sexual and psychological reason. With this option, a person experiences an equal "attraction" to people of both sexes. But such bisexuality of women, as well as men, as a rule, is not real bisexuality. Most often, equal attraction to women and men speaks of sexual immaturity. In the future, most of these "bisexuals" choose their own or the opposite sex as the only acceptable /

psychological reason. In this case, the bisexuality of men and women is associated with the rejection of one's gender and the desire not to belong to any particular gender.

biological reason. Occurs in hermaphrodites, which have physiological signs both sexes.

Bisexuality: types

Explicit male or female bisexuality is the recognition of one's sexual orientation and life according to one's own rules and in accordance with one's desires. Such people are not afraid to openly admit that they are bisexual and feel attracted to both men and women.

Hidden bisexuality is manifested in the desire of a person to hide his orientation. In this case, a person tries to live according to the norms established in society and avoids situations in which others can find out about his “unusual” needs and condemn him.

Should bisexuality be treated?

This question torments many people who have learned about the bisexuality of their loved one. Today bisexuality is not considered mental disorder or deviation from the norm. In addition, in most cases a person does not remain bisexual for long - in the end he passes either homosexuality or heterosexuality. In addition, bisexual people do not force anyone to have sexual contact with them, but opt ​​for those who are also bisexual.