How to find a soul mate - professional advice. You don't have to talk when you're together. Cultivate new positive qualities and character traits in yourself

Love is a gift from God, I have always been absolutely sure of this. True love is when two people met their gazes and the earth floated underfoot, when it gets hot from touch, when it is difficult to breathe without each other, it is very rare. Even L. Foucault said that “ true love as a ghost, many talk about her, but few have seen her. " It turns out that if God sent you such a feeling, take care of it, cherish it so anxiously, as if you have nothing more precious in the whole world. Or maybe not really?

In real life, there are only two positions, two options for existence and one choice - do each of us have other halves or not?

Option one. There are no other halves.

And indeed, all this romantic nonsense about gods and halves is completely inapplicable to real life. Because we do not have such a “timetable for the movement of the half”, where it would be clearly stated that “you will meet Lena, Vasya, at the age of 23 on Lenin Square at four o'clock in the afternoon and you will live with him for a long and happy life". None of us has any guarantees that this most notorious "half" we will meet at all, and if it does, it will happen at least in the first half of life, and not at 67 years old. Therefore, you need to have colossal courage and a completely unrealistic belief in miracles in order to calmly and calmly wait for your person. But most of us do not do that, most calmly choose the one who is near or the one with whom it is generally possible to live and calm down on this.

Why not? Not the dumbest life scenario- to choose a worthy person and to walk with him through life hand in hand with dignity. Well, let the earth not float under your feet and sparks from your eyes do not fly, this is real life, not a movie, after all ...
Rational, deliberate marriages - they are the strongest, husband and wife know exactly what they want from each other, build a joint future and spit on all these emotions and splashes from their eyes, why? As you know, crazy love has some problems. The brains are turned off completely and there are continuous emotions, but how to live with them? Nobody knew, and still does not know.

Conclusion: no second halves exist in nature, a person chooses a life partner for himself, and then calmly, systematically and judiciously builds with him a stable future and a common living space.
And only one question, if everything is so correct and rational, what are we looking for all our life ... even in the depths of our souls, without even admitting to ourselves, are we still looking?

Option two. Second halves exist.

It turns out that there are still such naive girls, even if these “girls” have already passed “thirty” long ago and it’s scary to say, over forty years old, who believe in Fate and other halves. Some of them are patiently waiting for their one and only, others are actively looking for it, and still others make mistakes over and over again, after a while, realizing “that it wasn’t him either.” But they all have one thing in common - they believe that somewhere on this earth they walk the only man, very, very, for the sake of meeting with which you can wait, and seek, and suffer, and make mistakes. Surprisingly, some people really meet HIM, their soul mate, and immediately realize that this is he. And they live with him for a long time and not even always happily, because where bare emotions happen in different ways. Others, disappointed and tired of waiting, decide that there are no halves and marry “rich and promising”. And still others meet their only one, true love, but something suddenly does not grow together and they part. And then it remains only to believe that if it was love, then fate will certainly give them another chance.

If you ask me if I believe in other halves, then I will answer honestly - I used to believe, but now I don’t, I don’t believe. Maybe it's age, or maybe life experience or maybe my soul mate just got lost somewhere in the dense Siberian forests. Who knows?

Although Valentine's Day is a holiday for lovers, a lonely person can celebrate it in an interesting and unforgettable way. And how to spend this day if there is no second half yet?

To celebrate or not?

On Valentine's Day, all lovers meet and go to cafes, movies, restaurants, or just hang out together. But what if there is no other half yet? Sitting at home and being jealous of all those who spend time with loved ones? No, you shouldn't do that.

And even if you are not in love yet, but you love your friends, relatives, yourself, finally. So why not spend time with whoever you want, or just arrange a personalized celebration? After all, sometimes we devote so little time to ourselves. Let Valentine's Day be an occasion for you to finally pamper and delight yourself. And let this holiday be remembered with positive impressions and emotions!

What if everyone is asking questions?

How to respond to questions from others about your personal life? You can simply answer that personal life is personal and not subject to discussion. Believe me, after such an answer, the desire to continue the questioning will disappear. But what if someone decided to take pity on you? Stop these attempts immediately!

Explain that you are not suffering without love (which is probably what many people think), but that you are enjoying your free life. Or we can say that you are waiting for your prince. What if you come across an annoying and very curious interlocutor who wants to find out why you don't have a second half? You shouldn't make excuses and start a long monologue about your shortcomings, which probably scare off the stronger sex. Say that while you are waiting for your Prince Charming.

Explain that you have very high expectations for your beloved, and that no one has yet been found who is worthy of you. And you can also shock the curious with the phrase: “I will certainly arrange a casting (or competition) to choose best guy". Or laugh it off by saying you took a vow of celibacy. Let the one who decided to find out all the details of your personal life understand that you are definitely not worried about the absence of a loved one.

How to mark?

How to celebrate Valentine's Day alone? There are tons of options, so you definitely choose something to your liking.

1. Enjoy a day of relaxation and beauty. Sign up to the spa for a relaxing array of treatments. Head to a beauty salon and change your image. Change your hairstyle, hair color. Be sure to shop and get some new beautiful things. Who knows, maybe in the updated form you will be able to unexpectedly meet your fate on the holiday of lovers. Miracles happen if you believe in them!
2. If you have a single girlfriend or a few friends, spend time with them. You can just invite them home and arrange, for example. Or you can go to night club, cinema or just for a walk in the park or forest. Have fun, enjoy the company of those who are dear to you!
3. Have a real exciting adventure! For example, if you have long wanted to visit a place, go to an area that you have never been to, or go out of town or even to another city, make a trip on this very day! Buy a ticket or get behind the wheel personal car and get ready to receive new interesting and vivid impressions. By the way, maybe in another place you will find what you have been looking for for a long time.
4. Or you can arrange a real home day off. Get some sleep, allow yourself to soak up your bed a little longer, get up, enjoy aromatic coffee and, read a magazine, watch your beloved, fill the bath with fragrant foam and immerse yourself in it, taking with you a glass of wine or champagne, measure all your clothes, turn on the music at full volume and dance. In general, do whatever you want, without thinking about anyone or anything! You'll like it!
5. Arrange. And let it seem crazy and stupid to you, but Saint Valentine will certainly approve of such an act and give you something unforgettable. Sign up on a dating site, find nice guy and set up a date with him. And let this meeting lead nowhere, but you will have an interesting and fun time. But a new acquaintance can end in a serious, long-term and fruitful relationship.
6. Winter is not a reason to be sad, but a time for the real winter fun... Go to the ice rink or take a walk in the beautiful winter forest... Lie in the snow, sled down the hill, run, frolic, enjoy this time of year, it will all end very soon.
7. If you are attracted to extreme ideas, then plan something crazy for February 14th. For example, you can go snowboarding, skydiving, or doing something that you have never done or were afraid to do.
8. Have a culinary day. Prepare an unusual dish or order something tasty or unusual.
9. Spend time with your family and friends, because these are the people you love the most. Buy them valentines too, do something nice for them.
10. If you dream of meeting the other half, then take a piece of paper and a pen, sit down and write a list of the qualities of your ideal lover. Write everything that you would like to see in young man... Also list what is unacceptable to you. Describe not only character traits, but also features of appearance. If you know how to draw or use graphic editors, then make a portrait of the other half or a composite sketch.
11. Make your dream come true, or at least desire. For example, if you've wanted to buy in a fashion store for a long time, then do it! Do not spare money at least on this day, so that it will be remembered and, perhaps, become important and decisive. This is probably what gorgeous dress will make that handsome man from the next house, which you have been looking at for a long time, pay attention to you.
12. Dedicate the day to a hobby. If you are fond of knitting, then get new knitting needles and yarn, find interesting scheme and knit something original and very pretty.
13. Just go for a walk around the city. Yes, even an aimless walk can complete romantic date which, in turn, will grow into a relationship.

How not to celebrate Valentine's Day?

How not to celebrate the holiday of lovers?

• If you are invited for a walk by a familiar couple, for example, a friend and her boyfriend, in no case agree! You will feel extremely uncomfortable and, probably, unwittingly begin to envy.
• Don't let yourself get depressed about your missing other half. Enjoy your freedom, dream and know that all the best lies ahead.
• Do not go to places where there are many people in love, for example, to popular cafes or restaurants. It is better to visit a less popular place, where you will probably see free young people.

Let Valentine's Day be remembered!

Finding your soul mate is a challenge that everyone faces. normal person... Everyone wants to be happy in their personal life, everyone wants happy family and true love! But not everyone gets it all. There are many people who live alone all their lives, or change partners many times, but never find their soul mate. And there are reasons for this.

All the most effective practical steps you need to take to find your soul mate - look! But it so happens that even this is not enough to solve this problem and it is necessary to resort to. Because the root reasons why a person is lonely and he does not succeed with personal relationships are deeply hidden. These are esoteric reasons associated, most often, with a person's past and with his past incarnations, which he does not remember, but his soul certainly remembers everything.

Consider why a person can have certain prohibitions and blocks on personal life, on a soul mate, on love and family.

My soul mate, love and family. Esoteric reasons for prohibitions

The main reasons for bans on privacy:

There are different bans: those set by the person himself (refusals), set by dark forces and people (curses, blockages, magic), there are bans set by and. Now in more detail.

1. Celibacy wreath, etc.! When a person in a past (or in this) life made some kind of vow, for example, the “Vow of celibacy and chastity” of a monk (nun), knight, etc. If the wreath has not been removed, then this vow may work in this life as well. In fact, this is a ban on personal life, family and intimate relationships, which can strongly block the development of these relationships by fate. Then, it is difficult to approach such a person, and he himself seems to repulse potential partners energetically, and can even do it consciously.

Celibacy wreath- need to be removed. Vow- was fair in a past life, in this one - he should not block the tasks of a person and his development through personal life and family. Taking off such a wreath and the vow of celibacy is a specific ritual that is performed. It often takes 1 hour to fix this problem.

2. Refusals and blocks, the author of which is the person himself! The reasons for such refusals and self-blocking can be different - strong pain experienced when a person was betrayed and destroyed by feelings, when he lost his family and decided that he did not want this anymore (he gave up feelings and family), when he was unrequited love and the second person mocked the feelings of the first (a burnt field remained in the heart), etc.

In the past, a person put blocks for himself so as not to feel pain, but in this life he strives for love and creating a family, but he does not succeed. And it won't work- until he removes the delivered blocks, he will not correct conclusions, will not cleanse, at least partially, your heart from past grievances and pain. Most often, this can also be done through a seeing healer, who can tell the details of past situations and perform the necessary rituals of disconnecting from the past and cleansing the soul of the old.

For the destruction of Feelings (Love)- when he laughed, but mocked, outraged the feelings of another, destroyed the feelings of the other, after which the second person could no longer love (the spiritual heart was destroyed). It also requires repentance and appropriate rituals.

When he abandoned those who loved him (loved ones, children) or destroyed other people's families(seduced and took someone away). These include, which, in fact, are Betrayal and require serious retribution according to Spiritual Laws. Or he ran away from his family, for example, he made a child and ran away from responsibility - you are deprived of the right to a family until you atone for the sin.

How to find your soul mate? What do we have to do!

An urgent question for very, very many! And what tricks people do not take to get a "loved one", but power, because of not distinguishing between good and evil, and because of not understanding tragedy possible consequences- go to a variety of dark and vile methods: break the family, bewitch and many others. dr.

Second half- you can only deserve that the Higher Forces and Fate - give you a long-awaited meeting. And "tying someone else's" is digging your own grave!

• What are the most effective motodes to deserve your soul mate?
• Where do you need to start and what exactly should you give?

How to find your soul mate

Personal life, true love anda happy family is the dream of almost every person, but not everyone becomes happy in their personal life and finds their soul mate. Most people remain lonely even by starting a family and raising beloved children. And a decent percentage of people never find their soul mate at all and suffer from this all their lives.

I know it hurts a lot, I myself once searched and suffered greatly from loneliness. It's hard to put up with this state of affairs, but it's even worse when you don't know how to find your soul mate and what exactly needs to be done to deserve this meeting of fate.

Feelings and a soul mate - the second half - is a gift from the gods, this is a reward that must be earned and most often it is not given for just one desire, one “want” is not enough! You need to know and fulfill the conditions - the requirements of the Higher Forces.

You, of course, may not believe that the gods give a soul mate and love - the worse for you, the less chance you have to get them. Remember true marriages- are always performed in Heaven!

If you still want to deserve a meeting with your significant other - read on!

First of all, we will consider what cannot be done, what methods of getting what you want will never bring happiness. How you can not find or get your soul mate.

How to find your soul mate - what not to do!

You we said that Love and dear soul, the soul mate - is given by God, not the Devil. Dark forces give something else - they can give power, wealth, sexual pleasure, but not Love and real Happiness. But what will they take in return - your soul, destiny, freedom, in general, everything that you have.

Therefore, you need to be very careful with your desires and the choice of methods for their implementation. Often obsessed people, especially women, in pursuit of their illusory "happiness" make irreparable mistakes - they make love spells, destroy families, make deals with forces unknown to them in order to get (bewitch) the man they like. This is a great nonsense with tragic consequences! Because you can't build happiness on someone else's misfortune. If you destroyed a family, you will be responsible, you will suffer from the full program!

Whatmakeit is forbidden:

1. Try to get the desired person(man or woman) with dubious occult methods - love spells, spells, hypnosis, etc. (I use the relevant literature). These methods belong to dark side peace, and she does not promise anything good and worthy to a person.

2. To beat off the person you like from another (oh) and even worse, to destroy the family, especially if the family is happy and there are children in it. This is very great sin... A person who has committed such an act will lose the support of the Light Forces for a very long time until he pays in full with his own suffering and fate.

3. Of course, you should not ask for help in getting what you want from occultists, dark magicians, etc. You cannot know with whom they are dealing in the invisible world and how you will then have to pay for your desires. For example, why do you need a soul mate if you don't have a soul (you have to pay off with it)?

4. You cannot deify a second person, you cannot deify a family. Many people do not get a soul mate precisely because they subconsciously (or consciously) deify the other, that is, they put him (or family) instead of God and begin to worship (serve) him. According to Spiritual Laws, a person either does not receive or in the end loses what he deifies, what he is ready to pray for.

5. All other pathetic and disgusting methods - temptation (to fool, drag to bed, etc.), deception, addiction, blackmail (for example, pregnancy), etc. With these methods, you can only lay out a path to hell, but not build happiness. True Love cannot be achieved this way, but hatred and contempt are easy. So think well before you start weaving.

There are other prohibited methods as well.

What doesn't work and is completely useless:

1. Wait and do nothing! It is useless to just waste time and not go forward, wait for the other half to fall on you from the sky in certain time... Inaction is suffering and death.

2. Suffer and be killed! Suffering - destroys, but does not bring you closer to the goal, does not change a person for the better, they are not something worthy, they are useless. To suffer, so that the Higher Forces supposedly take pity and give a soul mate is a stupid choice.

3. Do not change anything in your life! For example, when a person seems to want to find his soul mate, but at the same time, he sits at home all the time and does not communicate with anyone, does not get to know and, in general, is afraid of everything new. Remember the anecdote about the peasant who all the time in his prayers begged God for a million, and in the end God could not resist and said - “Would you even lottery ticket bought..!".

4. Do not change anything in yourself! It is foolish to dream of a prince, if you are a dick, in order to get a prince, you need to become a princess. Compliance is one of the main principles of a happy relationship. People who are going to live a long and happy life together should be close in level and life values(aspirations and goals). To deserve a worthy person next to you, you need to become worthy yourself, and for this you need to grow, develop as a person.

Now let's move on to the main question - what do you still need to do to find your soul mate? What are the most effective actions and steps?

How to find your soul mate? What do we have to do!

In this section, I will talk about the most important thing, what really works! By taking these steps, many people, including those I know, were able to earn their love and a happy family - just by working on themselves, and not just waiting "from the sea of ​​the weather", and it was honestly deserved Happiness, not a freebie.

And in order to understand the essence of why exactly such requirements and steps need to be fulfilled, it is necessary to realize why a person is given a family and a soul mate. Just for procreation and reproduction? This is not an answer! Rather, this is a pathetic and primitive answer - the approach of a materialist who perceives a person as an animal.

One Soul is given to another and a happy Union is created for life - 1. For joint development - a single path: for growth, learning the art of love, development important qualities, cleansing from sins, for common affairs, etc. 2 For Happiness and enjoyment 3. To create a family and decent upbringing of children as Individuals. 4. For learning to give, to raise above one's own egoism and to learn, if necessary, to sacrifice personal for the sake of the common - this is real Love. And all this two people must build and learn to pass together, and pass with dignity, not destroying feelings in conflicts and difficulties, but multiplying them.

There are, of course, reasons why the second half is not given and these reasons are esoteric. This is covered in a separate article. it serious topic... And now the report to the question - how to find your soul mate:

1. Own Development - personal growth! If you want a cool soul mate, you (yourself) become cool (cool). The law of correspondence always works, whether you like it or not. Constantly Evolve, become a Person who is rich in Soul, because it is wealth inner peace attracts others, only in this case you will be interesting to other people (your soulmate) and attractive.

Attend courses and trainings personal growth, read good books, work on yourself (eliminate shortcomings and reveal your strengths and talents). Because a chicken or a duck will never be a worthy soul mate for an eagle or a swan. If you want to fly among the eagles - become an eagle, only then you will be happy, feeling comfortable “among your own people”.

2. Correct setting of the Personal Life Goals! Set a goal- in detail and on paper. Remember the 3% of people who set their goals and write them down achieve more in life than the other 97% of people who don't. Form your motive sincerely - why do you need a soul mate and family? Write down the answer to this question in as much detail as possible and let it be at least 5 p.

Another important addition to setting goals for Personal life. Describe and in as much detail as possible, your ideal soul mate, and not only appearance but also mental and personal qualities.

• Write down in a column what mental qualities your chosen one (chosen one) must have.
• Opposite each quality, put a plus if you have this quality and a minus if you do not have this quality or talent. This is your personal conformity and not conformity with your future life partner.
• All the cons - turn into a plan for your own personal growth, this is what you need to work on. Set a goal to develop these qualities in yourself and start doing it.
• Describe in detail what kind of appearance, physique, what manners, behavior and intelligence your companion should have. And also, his outer life(self-realization, etc.), relationships with people, lifestyle, interests. dr.

3. Appearance and energy are also very important! Even if inwardly you are incredibly rich in soul and interesting, and outwardly - sloppy, careless, rude and smells bad from you - you are wrong! In this case, you yourself are digging a hole for yourself and will repel any self-respecting person.

• Go in for sports or fitness - be beautiful, strong, flexible, active. This will make you not only attractive in appearance, but also energetically strong. Your energy is your attraction. Stunted, dead, weak, lazy, spineless and sluggish in life - no one likes, except perhaps the same dead and sluggish people.
• Always be neat and clean, and your image should be at least decent.
• Work on your speech, manners, gestures, facial expressions - they should also be decent, pleasant to other people, not disgusting or regret.

4. Prayers and requests to Higher Forces! What you want when you have decided - you need to be able to ask, and better in sincere prayer. It doesn't have to be a specific prayer, no. Prayer can be free, as long as it is heartfelt and sincere, filled with your images and feelings. One should turn in prayer to the Creator, God, to the Forces of Light.

I recommend writing a prayer on paper, like a letter, starting with an address, for example: "Heavenly Father, Creator, Forces of Light, please accept my prayer, my request ..." (why and why you are asking this). It will open your heart and bring your goal closer to you many times over.

5. Everything else you need to do in life to meet your soul mate! To meet a loved one or a loved one, you need to go out somewhere, regularly visit society and communicate with people. if you sit at home all the time, within four walls, it will be much more difficult to arrange a meeting for you. As in that joke - "... even if I bought a lottery ticket ...".

6) there is something else that is not rare - karmic bans on personal life., punishments from the past that a person could bring with him from a past life and not even suspect about it. That is, his shower remembers this, but he does not remember his past life... And it so happens that a person seems to be doing everything to find his love - but as if everything is against him and fate says - "No!" Until he understands where he was wrong in the past and lifts the karmic prohibition.

"Where is my soul mate?" Any person at least once in his life tried to find out. How to meet your soul mate, and then not to miss it? Are people really destined for each other, or is it romantic nonsense? Where to start looking for true love? Read all the answers below!

Your life should become active, bright, filled with new acquaintances. Then there will be no problems with finding love, all that remains is to figure out how to find out your soul mate and not miss it. Source: Flickr (Mary_Maya_Riva)

Why do people want to meet their soul mate

It is interesting! There is one most curious legend. It says that once a person was a same-sex creature, and in his strength he could only be compared with the gods. But once a man angered the gods and those angry, cut him into two parts. Since then, people have spent their whole lives trying to find out how to find a soul mate and reunite with her.

The legend is very romantic. There are people who passionately believe in it, believing that each person has his personal half and she is only one. We tend to believe that this is not the case. Just imagine: what if you live in Russia, and half of yours, destined by fate, is an Australian citizen. What is the likelihood of a meeting? Almost zero.

But the fact that a person is always attracted to similar types of representatives of the opposite sex is true. That is, you always have several "halves" at your disposal, from which you can choose a potential life partner.

Therefore, it is better to think not about how to meet your soul mate, but about how to discern a worthy person in your environment. And then, together with him, build true love.

Where to find that “missing” part?

Note! You should never get hung up on finding someone. Most effective result is achieved when you forget about the true purpose of change in life. You always need to start changes by working on yourself: increasing self-esteem, correcting problems in communication with the opposite sex. Then the second half will appear by itself.

"Where is my soul mate and how can I find her?" - the most, perhaps, frequent question the entire population of the planet. But the places where these fateful personalities are found are not indicated on the map. Then how to find your soul mate?

• First, don't search. Representatives of the opposite sex seem to feel that they are being hunted. It repels, you lose your aura of attraction, you cease to be an attractive person. Relax!
• Second, have an affair with yourself. People's attitude towards you is a reflection of your personal attitude towards yourself. Spend money on yourself, please with delicious food, buy new things, go to beauty salons. This advice applies more to women.
• And finally, be in society more often, make new acquaintances, look for new hobbies and hobbies.

Your life should become active, bright, filled with new acquaintances. Then there will be no problems with finding love, all that remains is to figure out how to find out your soul mate and not miss it.

Don't look too desperately for a partner - it's better to find and love yourself in this life. Then you won't have to wait long for your soul mate. Source: Flickr (Mary_Maya_Riva)

How do you know that a person is destined for you?

It is interesting! There is no exact answer to the question "where to find your soul mate". It can happen anywhere, anytime. Don't look for special places, relax and expect good things.

Sometimes it is difficult to understand that a new acquaintance is the same prince with whom you will live happily ever after, or that another girl- really worthy future mother children. How to determine that a person next to him is destined for fate:

• First, let's determine the strength of your emotions. The fact that there is passion, love between you is understandable. But! Remember Romeo and Juliet and answer: could you go against society, stop communicating with your parents, friends, leave everything for the sake of your beloved / beloved? If the answer is yes, you are experiencing real feelings.
• Then it is worth observing the behavior of the chosen one. Turn off emotions - look at his actions and actions. What does a partner do for you? Does a man give gifts, care and protect you? Tasty food, interested in business, does a woman support you?

If the feelings are mutual, you are equally attracted to each other, you are ready to take care and work on the relationship, congratulations - the second half was found!

People often mistake fleeting feelings for love. In order not to be mistaken, listen to the recommendations of psychologists:

• When starting a relationship, take your time with sex (this advice applies to men too). Try to make friends with the person first, get to know him better. Starting with intimacy at the beginning of a relationship is like having dessert before your first course at dinner.
• Sometimes turn off emotions and watch the behavior of the chosen one. He should not only talk about feelings, but also confirm the recognition with behavior and actions.
• It also happens the other way around: a person does everything for you, and although you are not in love, you decide to try. This is not worth doing - if there is at least minimal sympathy, over time the chosen one will start to be terribly annoying, you will not be happy.

The soul mate theory is just a beautiful legend. But you can greatly increase your chances of meeting true love if you behave the right way. Don't look too desperately for a partner - it's better to find and love yourself in this life. Then you won't have to wait long for your soul mate.

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