How to answer the question let's meet. What to do if a boy confessed his love and proposed dating? If you were asked to meet a man you know in a romantic setting

Don't say that you're madly in love and can't live without your beauty. But if this is the case, you are very lucky: today you will learn how to propose to a girl.

Forget about stupid phrases and other failures, because this must be done without words!

Don't ask her out if...

In fact, you don’t always need to approach a girl and tell her “let’s date.” Even more, in 75% of cases it is simply not necessary. In order not to make a mistake and not to ruin your relationship with your lady, see if you belong to this category of men:

1. You realize that the girl doesn't like you

Doing crazy things for women is beautiful and sometimes effective, but not in your case. If a girl doesn't pay any attention to you at all, and you can't get her out of your head, forget about offering her a relationship. She will refuse you and it will only hurt your pride.

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If you think that such an act as a proposal will make her look at you differently, you are mistaken. First, you need to go through all the preliminary stages of a relationship: establishing contact, dating, seducing - and only then can you make her your girlfriend.

1. On the first date

You met a girl and asked her out on a date. You communicate well and you understand that you would like a relationship with her. What are you doing? You say: “We feel so good together. Will you be my girlfriend?” How does the girl feel at this time? She is simply confused and confused - you are a guy whom she only recently noticed, who has not yet earned much credit and has not yet become loved. Naturally, she will be frightened by such sharp pressure and you will not only not have a relationship with her, but there will not be a second date.

The girl's reaction will be something like this:

1. You are already together

If your relationship started on its own: you already spend a lot of time together, kiss, trust each other. Maybe you almost no longer go for walks separately and cannot live without each other. But you didn’t offer to meet her - what should you do? Nothing - you are already dating and after all this, your proposal will seem at least strange or stupid to the girl.

Do you know what girls expect in this case? Confessions! She already knows that you are together, but she doesn't yet know how serious it is. But your confession will put everything in its place - you are committed to a serious relationship.

1. You're not 15 anymore

If you are already an adult guy who has experience in relationships and knows how to seduce girls, forget about the phrase “let’s date.” This is the lot of schoolchildren, teenagers and some students who are not confident in themselves.

You can't do without an offer when...

There are situations when asking to meet is simply necessary. And if you don’t tell the girl these cherished words, you simply risk losing her or constantly being in painful uncertainty:

1. There is no clarity in your relationship

So you seem to have close physical contact and spend time together, and then she leaves you, goes to the club and freely flirts (or worse) with other guys. What's happening? It’s just that your relationship has very vague boundaries: you are not a guy and a girl, but you are not strangers either. In such a situation, everyone perceives this connection in a way that is convenient for them: you may think that you are in a relationship, but she simply will not take it seriously, thinking that this is another affair. If this happens, go ahead and propose a relationship to the girl. Express your desire to be with her, make her give a positive answer. Thus, she silently promises to be faithful and devoted to you.

1. Love works wonders

If you have strong feelings for a girl and want her to know about it, you can amaze her with a beautiful proposal. If you see that she also really likes you and you have already been on a date, act beautifully and originally. Even an adult guy can make such a proposal, because his goal is not so much to establish clear boundaries in your relationship, but rather to aspire to evoke the best emotions in your beloved, associations with you and make the day when you became a couple special for her. This is a kind of symbolic touch in the development of your story.

1. If you are teenagers

Finally, we come to the main thing - the proposal to date is the most important and significant for teenagers. And if you are one of them, this article is just for you. It is very important for school-age girls that you say the cherished “Will you be my girlfriend?” Perhaps this will be the first relationship for your beloved (and for you too). And of course, you still don’t know how to correctly understand each other’s gestures, you don’t know how to correctly grasp energy messages, hints and other little things. Therefore, it is especially important to express your feelings through words and actions. And if she answers you “Yes,” know that she is in love and proud that she now has you.

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Soil preparation

You can propose to a girl only when you feel a connection between you, when you both feel comfortable alone with each other. If a girl continues to avoid or ignore you, it’s too early to act. A situation where you are getting closer and closer can happen by itself, but it can also require your thoughtful actions.

When do you see each other often?

If you study in the same class or in the same group, then it is much easier for you to win her attention. But remember, before you propose to her, she should go on at least a couple of dates with you. In order to get closer to a girl, you can try the following maneuvers:

1. Stand out with something good, such as high marks, helping others, etc.
2. Ask her to work on a project with you. It could also be any other school task that will help you be around her.
3. Try to chat with the girl, ask her some questions about herself. Also use praise: notice that she did a very good job on her essay today, for example, and tell her about it.
4. Try to become her friend, but at the same time keep your distance so as not to fall into the Friend Zone.
5. Flirt with her - you can give her compliments, look at her with interest, even straighten her hair.
6. If you are already communicating closely enough, you can accidentally touch her.
7. Invite her out for ice cream.
8. If your walk was successful, you can try to sit next to her in class (better if she wants it herself).
9. Now you can walk with her more often, making attempts to hug her.
10. When you feel that she is ready, kiss her.
11. Now you can ask her to meet, because you have already become close and she is just waiting for your cherished words.

When it is not possible to cross paths often

If you are not around all the time, you have to organize meetings yourself. By the way, psychologists say that a person who often catches your eye is able to inspire trust and earn sympathy much faster.

The first thing you need to do is go to the places where she goes as often as possible. You should try to get closer to her - for this you can add her as a friend on VKontakte, comment on her photos and try to communicate.

For more information on how to take her for a walk, read the article “”. And if everything worked out for you and she went for a walk with you, make these meetings permanent. Let her get used to them. And when you feel that she is as interested in you as you are, invite her to date.

On what date to propose?

According to statistics, a girl expects a proposal on the 5th-7th date. If you delay too much, she may simply lose faith and be disappointed in you and in this relationship. But proposing earlier is also not recommended, because the first 2-3 meetings will only help you determine the girl’s attitude.

How to propose to meet correctly

If a girl willingly agrees to meetings and leaves them happy and inspired, then the moment of proposal has come. In order to do everything right, pay attention to the following things:

1. Your appearance

Even if you are not going to do anything special - you just want to hug her tenderly and tell her that you want to see her as your girlfriend, still take care of her appearance. At such a crucial moment, you must be beautiful and well-groomed, so that she does not doubt for a minute the correctness of her choice. Of course, you shouldn’t dress like a knight from old fairy tales - you’re not going to get married. Be more beautiful than usual, but don't overdo it.

1. Meeting point

The meeting place depends on how you want to propose to her. This could be a park, a cozy cafe, a trip to some beautiful or special place. But keep in mind that during the proposal you should not be interrupted by loud noise, and the girl should feel comfortable.

1. Flowers, gifts...

Don't buy perfume or other gifts that may simply not suit her. Get by with an inexpensive gift in the form of a flower, a small souvenir or sweets. In fact, you can do without all this, but the girl will be more pleased if you decide to back up your proposal with a small gift.

1. Your words

Remember that the main thing is sincerity. You must clearly and warmly explain to the girl how you feel about her and what you want from her. Girls simply love specifics, when after a conversation you don’t have to guess what you wanted to say. Emphasize why you like her, speak gently but confidently.

If you choose poems or template SMS for her, don’t forget to add something from yourself at the end. Let the girl feel that you didn’t just copy and paste this text without even reading it completely. For example, at the end of the verse write: “I really feel all this about you, and I want you to be with me.”

A few simple rules:

1. Be confident and persistent

You shouldn’t give up as soon as it seems to you that the girl has cooled down a little towards you. You must prepare her for the proposal using all your strength, charm and perseverance. Don’t overdo it with perseverance, but you won’t be able to do without it either.

1. Follow the girl's demands

If you are already in close contact and you are preparing to propose, pay attention to what the girl requires from you. If she is offended that you didn’t call her even once yesterday, it means she requires you to call every day. And you must fulfill this by showing her that she is truly dear to you. If the girl doesn’t care, most likely she’s not that interested in you.

1. Speak

Girls love with their ears and don’t like to guess about your feelings. You are a man and you must be brave: say out loud all the good things that you think about her and what you feel.

Say these words already: “Let’s meet”

So, you decided to confess your feelings to her and propose to date her. You have already figured out where you will take her and now all you have to do is decide what you will say and wait for the right moment.

Moment

It’s best to start talking when you’re already standing next to her, she’s in your arms and you’re kissing her. When you reach the peak of romance, just calmly tell her what you intended. You can whisper it in her ear, but not so quietly that she won’t hear it at all.

You can, holding her hands and looking into her eyes, confidently reveal all your cards to her.

Phrases

It’s better not to say the phrase “Let’s meet” - it sounds terribly banal and somehow stupid. You just need to modify and embellish it a little. Combine a compliment, a suggestion and an expression of your feelings into one. You could say something like this:

“We have become so close that I can no longer imagine my life without you. Will you agree to be my girlfriend?

“You are the first one who made me feel like this - worried, confused and in love. But I really like it. I want you to be my girlfriend"

“The time we spend together are the best moments for me. I really want this to happen as often as possible, so I would like to see you as my girlfriend.”

Of course, your phrase may be completely different... and it shouldn’t be like that - you are a special person and your girl is also special. Just try to express what you feel in beautiful words.

Invite her to meet nicely

If you think this is nonsense, I will try to convince you otherwise:

1. This will change my opinion about you

Of course, if a girl doesn’t love you and she doesn’t even like you, no matter what you do, it’s useless. But if she only has a little doubt about you and you need to make the final blow, surprise her with a beautiful confession and she will give in.

1. It will make you special

If you are no longer a schoolboy or a teenager, a beautiful proposal may still be useful to you. No matter how old a girl is, she always expects specific actions and beautiful confessions, and if you give her this, your relationship will become especially important and valuable for her.

How to choose the right method

Everything is simple here: if a girl has a calm character, is a romantic and gentle person, then the recognition should match her. This could be various romantic dinners, rose petals, etc.

If the girl is bright, extravagant and active, give her recognition with the same set of characteristics. Let it be something fun and unforgettable. This could be a trip to another city that she wanted to visit. Take her to a crazy attraction, a huge dolphinarium, etc. And at the end of the entertainment, say that it was all for her and make your proposal.

Another note for you: do not use gifts as a way to get a girl. This can easily influence a mercantile person, but a good, decent girl will feel like a debtor and this will not make her very comfortable. You don't want her to go out with you just out of politeness, do you?

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Thanks to the Internet, communication secrets are becoming an increasingly hot topic. Because the dating network is expanding, and inexperienced girls have less and less time to figure out how to respond beautifully to a guy. Happy women of the past - they could afford to practice wit and coquetry. For example, Tatiana wrote a letter to Onegin for a week, and marriage proposals in those days were considered for years. Try to think for a week about what to say “hello” to the guy who interested you on social networks, he simply won’t remember who you are and why he wrote to you. Conclusion - you need to act quickly, but thoughtfully. For girls who are nervous and worried when communicating with men, here are some universal tips.

Question answer

A question is a signal that a person is interested in you and wants to know more about you. In a relationship with a guy, it is impossible to avoid such a situation, especially if he likes you. Therefore, you need to clearly understand how to answer guys’ questions so as not to discourage them from continuing their acquaintance, but rather to form a positive and captivating image.

• Counter questions. In order to increase the time you think about your answer and not blurt out something stupid, use this technique, popularly called “Jewish”. Ask your interlocutor: “Why are you interested in this?”
• Image. Be sure to determine what impression you want to make on the guy. Do you want to be thought of as a cheerful laugher or a thoughtful intellectual, independent or romantic, crafty or gullible? The impression formed about you at the beginning of acquaintance is very difficult to change in the future. Yes, and the guy won’t understand - he liked the romantic flirt, and you suddenly answer boldly and provocatively.
• Honesty. Sometimes questions do not touch on the best moments of your life and character. You can try to joke “It was a hundred years ago, I was young and green then” or “I rarely get angry, only when I’m hungry.” During a serious conversation, the interlocutor may not understand your joke and may even be offended, so try to answer as tactfully and truthfully as possible. And if you really had to lie, remember everything you came up with, in case you have to reproduce the events. One small mistake and your reputation as a liar is guaranteed. Lying not only lowers a person in the eyes of others, but also kills trust, which is the basis of any relationship.
• Avoiding an answer is a good option if the topic of conversation is very unpleasant for you. The tradition of seeking an answer using hot tongs and an iron has long been outdated, and a loved one will not persist when they see your suffering. You can say: “It’s a long story,” “It hurts me to remember this,” “I’ll definitely tell you about it when I’m ready.” But this option can only be used in extreme cases, when you can’t figure out how to answer the guy. After all, a man's fantasy can significantly surpass reality.
• Silly questions. Sometimes the guy is just as lost as the girl, and the questions can be ridiculous and strange. They should be answered vaguely without specifics, but with good-natured humor. You can be a little stupid, respecting the style of your interlocutor. The main thing is not to be nervous!

Reply to an invitation

Very often, girls are lost, not knowing how to respond to a guy’s proposal for a meeting. After all, the answer is influenced by many factors: your relationship, the nature of the meeting, your desire or reluctance. Let's take a closer look at how to gracefully refuse or agree:

• Agree! If the nature of the meeting is friendly, just forget that there is a guy in front of you. Smile and feel free to specify the time and place. If it's a date, a little flirting won't hurt. Make him look forward to the meeting, purr “I am so pleased to receive your invitation.”
• I do not agree! In this case, the wording of the refusal should be polite and understandable. Say with a smile, “I would love to, but things are going on,” or more categorically, “If I have time, I’ll call myself.”

If a guy offers to date, it means he has strong feelings for him. But sometimes girls don’t reciprocate. Moreover, they begin to be rude or say unpleasant words when they don’t like the guy. This speaks of the girl's bad manners.

Statistics show that girls over 16 are often offered to date and build serious relationships. Of course, some are happy with such an offer, but others are not so happy. After all, if one girl agrees to date after 5-6 days, then the other will respond positively after a few months. Therefore, you need to know the psychology of the girl you want to always be with.

So, what is the answer to let’s date a girl who loves a boy, but is afraid to tell him about it? Of course, you shouldn’t agree right away. But there is also no need to say: “I’ll think about it” or “Let’s wait.” The guy will think that he did something stupid and will constantly think about it. If a girl really loves a guy, she should answer: “I’ll tell you the answer tonight” or “Can I tell you this tomorrow?” In this case, you can prepare a small surprise. Namely: invite a guy home for a romantic dinner. Next, you need to pour champagne and say: “My beloved, Antoshenka. When you asked me to date, I was in 7th heaven with joy. I am very happy that you are with me. I agree to build a relationship with you. After all, I love you too. Let's raise a glass to our well-being."

And on a social network, how to answer the question: “Let’s meet?” Of course, talking about your feelings to a girl on the Internet is not a good idea. In this case, you can answer as follows: “I’m so pleased. Let’s not rush time yet. I suggest we wait a little longer. I really like you, I really do, but let’s wait.” If you don’t like the guy at all, then the answer may be: “Unexpectedly. I would love to date you. But now I like another guy. You are very good, but you can’t command my heart. Maybe everything will change. Just not now. Come on We’ll talk about this later. Perhaps then my opinion will change.”

Many girls ignore the words of guys who confess their love to them and offer to date them. This is absolutely impossible to do. It is necessary to immediately say whether there are feelings or not. Otherwise, the story will drag on and there may be an unpleasant outcome.

It also happens that a young man makes some kind of surprise and it is there that he offers the girl a serious relationship. Of course, in such cases it is difficult to refuse, but to say something without thinking it through is a little ridiculous. Then how to respond to let’s meet a guy who has prepared a whole event for this. For example, I cooked dinner, bought some gift, composed a poem, etc. In this case, you can note this: “I’ve been waiting for this for a long time and I’m telling you: “Yes!” ". I will love you ever! ".

You can also capture all the actions on camera and make a beautiful video. But you just need to think through the scenario. Therefore, the girl must be informed about everything in advance. Or just give her a poem so that she learns it and responds to the sentence in poetic form. If possible, you can invite a girl to Turkey or Egypt. There she will definitely answer positively.

What other options are there for answering the question: “Let’s meet?” For example, if a girl really feels something for a man, she will reciprocate his feelings in some original way. You can take a short walk to interesting places. And then stop somewhere in a secluded place and say: “I haven’t known you for so long, but I’ve already decided that you mean a lot to me. I’m very glad that you decided to start building a relationship with me. I’m overwhelmed with emotions. But this does not prevent me from reciprocating. I say: “Yes.” And I am sure that I was not mistaken, because I have never met anyone like you.”

If you don’t want to talk a lot and write lyrical texts, then you just need to say: “Let’s meet. In principle, I don’t mind. Whether it works out or not, we’ll find out later. In life you need to try everything, especially feel love. I agree.”

As a rule, many girls feel that men have feelings for them. For this case it is better to prepare some kind of lyrical song.

Most guys confess their love using social networks. Moreover, they write in messages that they want to date. This method is unacceptable. A normal and well-mannered girl is unlikely to agree to such a proposal.

And in conclusion, it’s worth saying: before answering a guy to let’s meet, you should think carefully. It is better not to immediately jump to hasty conclusions and not make decisions spontaneously. But, in general, you need to do as your heart tells you.

You can remember or imagine an incredible variety of situations in which you and the guy appear. For example, if a man asked to meet, what should I answer him? First, let's figure out what kind of man this is - is it your good acquaintance, your friend, your ex-boyfriend or a complete stranger to you and whether you want to agree to his proposal. It’s also worth figuring out for what reason you are being invited - friendly or romantic. If a man asked to meet - what should I say to him, should I go or not - there is no clear answer here, it largely depends on who exactly invited you?

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So, if a man asked to meet: what to answer, do you think?

Let's say this guy is your friend, and if you:

a) If you want to agree, imagine that a classmate, classmate or work colleague is inviting you. How would you answer? She probably would have smiled and said: “Yes, of course. Where and what time?” . In this case, the conversation will probably be non-binding, unless your relationship develops into a warmer, more friendly one.

b) If a man asked to meet, and you want to refuse, formulate your refusal as politely as possible so as not to offend the person. Smile and say: “I would love to, but I just can’t. Maybe next time?". If a man persistently continues to invite you and tries to find out the exact date of your upcoming meeting, but you do not intend to meet with this subject in principle, answer with the classic phrase: “As soon as there is time, I will let you know.”

If a man you know asks you to meet in a romantic setting, and you:

a) If you want to agree, flirt with him a little, say in a languid voice: “Yes, I would be very pleased to have dinner with you,” make eyes at him, in short, interest him and make him look forward to the meeting with great impatience. Flirting is not a crime, and upon meeting you will be able to decide whether a further relationship with this man is possible.

b) If you want to refuse, immediately make it clear that you do not want any romance between you. Say: “You know, we probably won’t succeed, I’m sorry. You are a good person, but I can only offer you friendship, nothing more.”

If your ex-boyfriend asked you to meet and have a friendly chat, And you:

a) If you want to agree, then you shouldn’t remind him of your past relationship. Treat him like a really good friend, he knows so much about you and you have a lot in common. In this situation, you better answer what you think. You need to understand yourself, understand whether you are ready for reconciliation. After all, an ex-boyfriend is a walking stress for you, because for us girls, any breakup is difficult. In addition, you must be sure that your ex wants a truly friendly relationship. Don’t rush to answer, but try to find out what he really wants. You probably have mutual friends who will provide you with all the necessary information.

b) If you want to refuse, answer him that you can’t be friends, so it’s better to remain just acquaintances, tell him that you don’t hold a grudge against him, but you already have enough friends, and you have good memories associated with him, which have a place in the past, not the present.

If your ex-boyfriend asks you out for a romantic date, And you:

a) If you want to agree - (you think that the relationship can be returned), then make sure that he pursues you, show him that during the time you were in a breakup, your life returned to normal again, and that you cannot stand the breakup with him for the second time. If he really wants you back, he will do everything to make you believe him.

b) If you want to refuse, tell him that you respect him and are grateful for all the good things you had, but your life moves on and you want to build relationships with other people. Invite him to remain friends, but no more.

If a stranger invites you to a friendly meeting, and you:

a) If you think you will agree, then first take a closer look at the stranger. Women's intuition often tells us who we can trust and who we can't. If your sixth sense tells you that everything is in order, then get to know him and set a place and time for the meeting yourself.

b) If you think about refusing, then just refuse. Without any hints, flirting and the like. Say, "No, thank you." If a person wanted friendly communication and nothing more, he will understand everything.

If a young man you don't know invites you to a romantic meeting, And you:

a) If I’m ready to agree, first find out his name. Offer to arrange a two-on-two meeting - ask to come with a friend, and come with a friend, choose the place and time of the meeting yourself. If something goes wrong, your girlfriend will help you out, and meeting on your territory will give you confidence in the event of an unforeseen situation. Unfortunately, nowadays it’s scary to trust strangers.

b) If you are ready to refuse, say so directly. Lie that you have a boyfriend if you don’t have one. Don't give out your phone number or hint at anything. If a person doesn’t understand, just leave.

If your boyfriend offers you a romantic meeting, And you:

a) Naturally, if you want to agree, thank him for the invitation, and find out where you are going, and if it’s a surprise, then at least find out the dress code, otherwise he’ll bring you to a restaurant, and you’re in a T-shirt and torn jeans, even if designer

b) If you can’t go, but you’re afraid to offend him, kiss him, say some nice things about how much you love him, apologize and ask him to reschedule the meeting. The main thing is not to lie to him, because you probably have a good reason why you cannot go on a date exactly when he wants. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship.

But you yourself must understand that these are just some of the situations that can happen to you, and they need to be taken into account when thinking about: if a man offers to meet, what should you answer? Trust, first of all, your mind, don’t do what you don’t want, don’t date people you don’t want to, and don’t trust anyone if you don’t want to. If you are offered to meet, then only you have the right to decide. Think about whether you want to communicate with a specific person as a friend, or whether you are interested in him only with a hint of a relationship, and whether you want to communicate with him at all. Remember that we create our own environment. Good luck!

You can remember or imagine an incredible variety of situations in which you and the guy appear. For example, if a man asked to meet, what should I answer him? First, let's figure out what kind of man this is - is it your good acquaintance, your friend, your ex-boyfriend or a complete stranger to you and whether you want to agree to his proposal. It’s also worth figuring out for what reason you are being invited - friendly or romantic. If a man asked to meet - what should I say to him, should I go or not - there is no clear answer here, it largely depends on who exactly invited you?

So, if a man asked to meet: what to answer, do you think?

Let's say this guy is your friend

a) If you want to agree, imagine that a classmate, classmate or work colleague is inviting you. How would you answer? She probably would have smiled and said: “Yes, of course. Where and what time? In this case, the conversation will probably be non-binding, unless your relationship develops into a warmer, more friendly one.

b) If a man asked to meet, and you want to refuse, formulate your refusal as politely as possible so as not to offend the person. Smile and say: “I would love to, but I just can’t. Maybe next time?". If a man persistently continues to invite you and tries to find out the exact date of your upcoming meeting, but you do not intend to meet with this subject in principle, answer with the classic phrase: “As soon as there is time, I will let you know.”

If a man you know asks you to meet in a romantic setting

a) If you want to agree, flirt with him a little, say in a languid voice: “Yes, I would be very pleased to have dinner with you,” make eyes at him, in short, interest him and make him look forward to the meeting with great impatience. Flirting is not a crime, and upon meeting you will be able to decide whether a further relationship with this man is possible.

b) If you want to refuse, immediately make it clear that you do not want any romance between you. Say: “You know, we probably won’t succeed, I’m sorry. You are a good person, but I can only offer you friendship, nothing more.”

If your ex-boyfriend asked you to meet and have a friendly chat

a) If you want to agree, then you shouldn’t remind him of your past relationship. Treat him like a really good friend, he knows so much about you and you have a lot in common. In this situation, you better answer what you think. You need to understand yourself, understand whether you are ready for reconciliation. After all, an ex-boyfriend is a walking stress for you, because for us girls, any breakup is difficult. In addition, you must be sure that your ex wants a truly friendly relationship. Don’t rush to answer, but try to find out what he really wants. You probably have mutual friends who will provide you with all the necessary information.

b) If you want to refuse, answer him that you can’t be friends, so it’s better to remain just acquaintances, tell him that you don’t hold a grudge against him, but you already have enough friends, and you have good memories associated with him, which have a place in the past, not the present.

If your ex-boyfriend asks you out for a romantic date,

a) If you want to agree - (you think that the relationship can be returned), then make sure that he pursues you, show him that during the time you were in a breakup, your life returned to normal again, and that you cannot stand the breakup with him for the second time. If he really wants you back, he will do everything to make you believe him.

b) If you want to refuse, tell him that you respect him and are grateful for all the good things you had, but your life moves on and you want to build relationships with other people. Invite him to remain friends, but no more.

If a stranger invites you to a friendly meeting

a) If you think you will agree, then first take a closer look at the stranger. Women's intuition often tells us who we can trust and who we can't. If your sixth sense tells you that everything is in order, then get to know him and set a place and time for the meeting yourself.

b) If you think about refusing, then just refuse. Without any hints, flirting and the like. Say, "No, thank you." If a person wanted friendly communication and nothing more, he will understand everything.

If a young man you don't know invites you to a romantic meeting

a) If I’m ready to agree, first find out his name. Offer to arrange a two-on-two meeting - ask to come with a friend, and come with a friend, choose the place and time of the meeting yourself. If something goes wrong, your girlfriend will help you out, and meeting on your territory will give you confidence in the event of an unforeseen situation. Unfortunately, nowadays it’s scary to trust strangers.

b) If you are ready to refuse, say so directly. Lie that you have a boyfriend if you don’t have one. Don't give out your phone number or hint at anything. If a person doesn’t understand, just leave.

If your boyfriend offers you a romantic meeting,

a) Naturally, if you want to agree, thank him for the invitation, and find out where you are going, and if it’s a surprise, then at least find out the dress code, otherwise he’ll bring you to a restaurant, and you’re in a T-shirt and torn jeans, even if designer

b) If you can’t go, but you’re afraid to offend him, kiss him, say some nice things about how much you love him, apologize and ask him to reschedule the meeting. The main thing is not to lie to him, because you probably have a good reason why you cannot go on a date exactly when he wants. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship.

But you yourself must understand that these are just some of the situations that can happen to you, and they need to be taken into account when thinking about: if a man offers to meet, what should you answer? Trust, first of all, your mind, don’t do what you don’t want, don’t date people you don’t want to, and don’t trust anyone if you don’t want to. If you are offered to meet, then only you have the right to decide. Think about whether you want to communicate with a specific person as a friend, or whether you are interested in him only with a hint of a relationship, and whether you want to communicate with him at all. Remember that we create our own environment. Good luck!

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Instructions

Of course, the easiest way to answer a marriage proposal is the standard “yes” or “no”. However, in the first case it will be quite trivial, and in the second it will be offensive. But if you want to avoid long explanations and excuses, then this is your option.

If you don’t like your gentleman, and you are not happy with the relationship with him, then you don’t have to be shy in your wording. It all depends on the degree of your upbringing. But before you decide to break up with this man in this way, think again. After all, after this you are unlikely to meet with him again and communicate normally.

When responding to a marriage proposal, do not try to make it too original. It is unknown how strong the psyche of your chosen one is. Accordingly, it will be quite difficult to predict his reaction. This means that simplify your answer to the maximum and do not torture a man with long waits and complete uncertainty.

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• how to answer marry me

On offer hands And hearts Every girl answers at least once in her life. It would seem that there are only two answer options: yes or no. But in reality, everything turns out to be much more complicated, and thousands of arguments for and against are tormenting with their weight.

Instructions

Take your time to make a decision. Love is a wonderful feeling, amazing and magical. A person in love can be easily distinguished from the crowd - his eyes glow, he smiles, as if he is glowing from within. And, of course, no one can force themselves not to experience such wonderful sensations. And life without them would be boring. If love is real, then over time it does not disappear anywhere, but simply changes, becomes calmer and stronger. Therefore, there is no need to rush, there is no reason to immediately run to the registry office. In the modern world there is the concept of civil marriage. Perhaps living in it for many years is not a very right decision - they seem to be married, but it seems they are not. But it’s not a bad practice for starting family life. After all, everyday family life is very different from the candy-bouquet period. It often happens that time strengthens your relationship.

But also don’t rush to refuse. Understand that you don’t have to madly adore the person with whom you will build a strong family; sometimes sympathy is enough. Many couples build relationships on respect and mutual understanding, and they do it wonderfully. In this case, feelings will not prevent you from approaching marriage from a reasonable side. Consider whether your candidate will love children, whether he will be a good and faithful husband who knows how to appreciate comfort, and whether he will be able to financially provide for his family.

And, most importantly, listen to your inner voice. It is he who will tell you what you want to answer more strongly: yes or no. Unfortunately, it is impossible to make an accurate forecast for many years. Sometimes the most ridiculous, at first glance, couples live for many, many years in a strong marriage. And those who seem to be very suitable for each other disperse after a couple of years. Therefore, weigh the pros and cons, make a firm decision and start building a new family or, on the contrary, continue to look for your soulmate.

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• answers to marriage proposals in 2017

A joke can defuse the situation and relieve nervous tension. Remember how your friends joked before the exam, and you felt a little better. Sometimes jokes backfire. Instead of a sense of humor, irritation and anger at the interlocutor appear. In such cases they say that the joke was out of place. The interlocutor in response is also indignant that some people don’t understand jokes. The correct reaction to joke always leads to peaceful relations.

Instructions

Smile. If you liked the joke, this answer will be quite enough. If you didn't like the joke, smile. Your smile may be very brief. But the interlocutor will be convinced that you “understood” his intention to joke. If you don't reproach him, he may be sensitive and observe why the joke didn't make you laugh as much as it did him. He, too, may not say anything, but come to the conclusion that he shouldn’t joke with you like that. Some jokers don’t understand the inappropriateness of jokes the first time. Be patient and do the “smile experiment” several times. Be lenient. And immediately go about your business. It will be enough for a person to know that you are not participating in his wild joy. And in the future he will choose another object for jokes. And they will say about you that you don’t understand jokes. But good relations will remain between you.

Think about where you can apply this joke. If it seems appropriate to you in some situation, immediately tell your interlocutor about it. By doing this you will praise him for his sharp mind and resourcefulness. The person will be very glad that you want to use his creativity. When you joke like this with other people, don't forget to tell the joke's author about their reaction. This will delight him.

Praise, reprimand, and praise again. If a joke hurt you, don’t rush to “explode.” Leave the room immediately. Calm down, drink some water. Do not leave your interlocutor for a long time, return to him. Praise him for his intention to joke. Then note that the joke may be good, but not for you or in this situation. And praise again. Your praise will save a person from the need to get angry and make excuses. This behavior would be the best response to an unsuccessful joke.

Post a good one joke on the Internet and give the link to your interlocutor. He will be glad that you did this. Especially if you hint in the message who exactly made that joke and how you reacted. This step will be another way to answer joke.

note

Some people don't joke, they just try to joke. They do this ineptly, due to lack of communication. They want to talk to someone. Don't push these people away with awkward silence in response to a joke. Be ironic towards yourself, laugh at the fact that you have no sense of humor at all today. Appropriate tact on your part will support the person.

Helpful advice

Sometimes you may feel like everyone around you is so witty. They joke, they joke back and forth, but such thoughts don’t enter your head. Remember that there is a universal response to a joke - sincere laughter. Learn to laugh, then your friends will like to joke around you.

There are times in life when someone makes some unacceptable request or proposal. The whole difficulty is that it is not always convenient to answer with a sharp refusal. After all, even if you disagree with your interlocutor, you don’t want to inadvertently offend a good person. What if you still need to answer?

Instructions

Consider the simplest and perhaps most correct option first: answer honestly, the way you think. If you are sure that a person’s proposal does not suit you, your prevarications and tricks will only prolong the matter and may give him unnecessary illusions and some unrealistic dreams or expectations. And sooner or later, the truth will still come out, and then your interlocutor will definitely be offended and will wonder why you didn’t explain everything right away and directly.

Even if you tell a truth that is not entirely pleasant for a person, he will understand and will not be offended if you speak softly and calmly, politely and with respect. Speak sincerely and with an open mind. Don't forget to thank us for the honor and attention shown to you. Find some words that don't sound like a categorical refusal. Perhaps after some time you will reconsider your decision. Tell me that you will think more about this proposal.

When refusing, try to find the most compelling arguments. If you are very convincing, then emotions will fade into the background, giving way to reason and rationality. State the reason why you are refusing. It may not be entirely truthful, but it is easy and understandable to understand.

Try to answer using hints if for some reason you cannot refuse directly. An intelligent person will analyze the information, understand everything and not be offended.

Refuse your interlocutor, framing your refusal as a compliment. Praise him for some good qualities or for the proposal itself. For example, “you are such a smart and sensitive person that you understand better than anyone else...”, “you have a wonderful idea, but...”, “I know that I can rely on you, so...”, etc. But keep in mind that your compliments must be sincere, otherwise your partner will immediately feel false. Believe in what you say.

Try to refuse an offer or request, citing external circumstances beyond your control, as well as being busy, sick, waiting for some important event, etc. In any case, you will have the opportunity to postpone the resolution of this issue for a fairly long period.

Avoid a conversation that is unpleasant for you by changing the subject. Switch your interlocutor's attention to something else that is no less important and interesting to him. However, keep in mind that the transition to another topic should not be very abrupt and noticeable. There should be no hesitation or long pause.

Another option for refusing is to turn the conversation into a joke. This is not about ridiculing or insulting the interlocutor, but simply about using a sense of humor. Your joke must be appropriate and kind, and then you will achieve the desired effect.

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• how to respond to a person so that he is in 2017

A well-known myth is that all women want to get married. This encourages men to make inappropriate marriage proposals. And finding herself in such a situation, it is important for a lady to get out of it with dignity and not hurt the feelings of her failed husband. This is not easy to do, but it is possible.

The easiest way to let an unwanted suitor know your intentions is to anticipate his proposal and prevent him from thinking about you as a potential wife. To do this, talk more often about what you expect from the relationship. You should not say that you are potentially ready for marriage, but do not see your current companion as a husband. This will be a serious blow to male pride and will completely ruin the relationship. Clearly delineate the zone of proximity - do not start talking about relatives and friends, do not introduce neighbors to your parents.

If you do hear a proposal from a person whom you do not see as a husband, try to soften the blow of the refusal. It should be remembered that in any case, your refusal will be painful; it is important to choose words that do not cause serious psycho-emotional trauma.

You should not answer with a monosyllabic “no.” Even if you are determined to refuse, ask for time to think about the offer. Be sensitive and emphasize that this is a very significant act on the part of the man.

Every word you say must be sincere. So if you feel feelings of love, appreciation, friendship or respect, say so. Remember that there is no dissonance in the words “I love you” said immediately after “I cannot be your wife.” If you feel love, but are not ready for family life, your partner should understand and accept this.

Try starting your speech with soft introductory formulations: “This proposal is very unexpected” or “I am so discouraged that I cannot collect my thoughts.”

Give reasons that marriage with anyone, even the most eligible bachelor in Russia, is not in your plans today. Say that the main things for you at this stage of life are career, self-development, building a business, creating a financial springboard.

At this point, the would-be groom should understand even without the word “no” that you are refusing him. It is important not to stop the conversation and give the man a full understanding of why you do not want to become his wife.

Tell us how you imagine a family and use real-life examples to illustrate the other side of marriage. After several years of family life, the relationship goes through stages of crisis. Emphasize that you value your current relationship with your partner and do not want family life to absorb the romance that exists now.

Refer to negative experiences in romantic relationships in the past, if you have had them. Emphasize that the blow you suffered still makes you mistrust men.

Emphasize that your refusal today does not mean that after some time you will not think about a family idyll. Therefore, ask the man not to rush things.

Since the times of the USSR, a stereotype has developed in our country that a girl simply needs to get married before a certain age. Moreover, it was often limited to 18-20 years. Recently, views on marriage have changed somewhat, but girls still worry about the “fading” years and, because of this, sometimes commit rash acts.

Marriage age in Rus' and in modern Russia

The reasons for such early marriages were often purely practical. For example, it was not easy for the bride’s parents to feed their numerous children, and they sought to quickly “place” at least one of them. On the contrary, the groom’s family did not have enough workers, and his parents gladly accepted a “working girl” into the house. Of course, there could be no talk of any mutual love here, and marriage relationships in a young family sometimes began only a few years after the wedding.

Currently, Russian legislation sets the age for marriage to be no younger than 18 years. However, in special circumstances, a marriage license can be obtained as early as 14-15 years of age. The laws of individual constituent entities of the Russian Federation specify that “special circumstances” are late stages of pregnancy, the presence of a pregnancy (at least 22 weeks), the termination of which is impossible for medical reasons or due to the desire of both parties to maintain it. Permission to marry for persons under 16 years of age is usually issued by a decree of the administration of a region, territory or republic.

Factors influencing marriage

However, it is best if mutual love is the main factor. After all, you can’t want to get married in the abstract; at a minimum, a girl needs a loving and reliable man. But it’s unlikely that you’ll be able to meet him “by order.” Under no circumstances should you get married when you are not sure of your chosen one. Although stubborn statistics still claim that after 30 years the chance of getting married is no more than 7%, the solution to the problem in each case remains individual. It happens that a girl meets her destiny at 16-17 years old, and it also happens that women find family happiness at 30, 40 and even 50 years old.

It would seem a simple situation. They offer you a hand and a heart. Such an important point, but what to answer? How to behave? Fall into his arms, flood his vest with tears, kiss him on both cheeks? Sing and dance, beaming with happiness, or proudly show the unlucky groom the door, saying, I’m someone else’s bride? Let's try to understand these, excuse the pun, simple, difficult questions.

What to say when someone proposes marriage to you.

In fact, the answer depends on your attitude towards your future groom. Although, to be honest, he can only establish himself as your fiancé if you wish. So, it’s up to you to decide whether you will be someone’s bride or remain no one’s girlfriend. Let's consider the answer options depending on your attitude towards the “asking” party.

You don't like him and you don't care about your future relationship

Everything is simple here. If you're purple, you can send it. Moreover, the range and depth of the “send” will not have any meaning. And expressions are limited only by your tact. In fact, if it’s already purple, it won’t get any more purple! The next case is much more complicated.

You don't like him, but you don't want to offend him, you want to remain friends, etc.

Perhaps the most difficult case. Almost everyone goes through this. A persistent young man persistently offers you his hand and heart, but you are as indifferent to him as you are to the sofa or closet in the living room. You can sit on it, kick it, look inside, hang something on your shoulders, or hang yourself. Maximum - you value him as a friend, but even imagining him as a husband is beyond your strength. You want to remain friends and not destroy the framework of an already established relationship. And let them say that girls don’t have guy friends, but only a bench, what’s wrong with that? You can send an overly impatient guy to the reserve with one deft maneuver!

Make it a joke

For example, making a serious expression on your face and frowning your brow, arrogantly say: “Young man, unfortunately, at the moment I cannot agree to your proposal, but I will remember you for the rest of my life as the owner of exceptionally good taste!” After this, you can laugh together and tell a couple of jokes. Perhaps he will forget, become confused, and lose his fighting spirit.

There is also a “sort of agreement” technique in the comic arsenal. It works flawlessly - you seem to give a positive answer, but don’t give a reason. For example, you might respond, “Oh yes, of course, honey! We will live a long, long life with you. We'll give birth to children - a boys' football team and a girls' cheerleading team, and we'll grow old and die one day right here! Can you imagine how old and decrepit I will be? And you? Such a dry old man with one tooth!” Well, continue in the same spirit. If a guy with a serious face demands an immediate answer, move on to the next technique.

Give hope, but don't give a reason

Hope is the last to die - remember this. And while she is alive, the guy will sit on the bench and lustfully eat you with his eyes (in fact, “eat” should be replaced with “undress”, but we are cultured people, so we will consider boys such innocent creatures, romantic and in love ). Your task is not to cross the line where hope ends and reason begins. In general, next to the art of female refusal, all the subterfuges and bells and whistles of professional diplomats nervously smoke on the sidelines. A girl can lead a herd of guys by the nose for years, and they will all be sure that she is about to become their property. Listen to yourself - and your nature will tell you how to deftly and skillfully turn persistent demands into an eternal time-out.

Well, if your nature is no less dumbfounded than you yourself, if your subconscious gives you only options like “Or maybe it’s better to send after all?”, try the following maneuver. With a serious look (the degree of seriousness should be such that it would convince the guy of your sincerity), try to shift all the blame onto yourself. Like, it’s too early for me, I’m still studying, I have a career ahead of me, I’m not ready for family life, I’m waiting for the inheritance of my grandmother, who bequeathed it to me on the condition that I would not be married... in general, you understand, right? The main thing is that the MCH does not suddenly decide for himself that you are burning with the desire to become his, and they are preventing you, so completely burning with love. In this case, he will put on armor, take out a sword, sit on a war horse, and there will be no trace left of your windmills of “objective reasons.”

You need to act subtly and cunningly, in no case allowing the persistent association “family life for her is life with me” in the heated brain of the gentleman. Family life is an abstraction for you. For those who are especially stupid, you can hint that he is not the first to be so cunning. For those who are on an armored train, drill into your brain the phrase “I cannot imagine a single man as my husband.” You can try to knock off those who are anchored firmly and for a long time with the statement “Friendship with a man is higher than marriage for me.” Let him, calling on all the power of his convolutions for help, feverishly try to comprehend the sacred meaning of this thought. Well, then it’s a matter of technology. No one in the world can teach a girl to keep a guy at a distance better than what nature itself has given her. Draw conclusions.

The hit excuse of all times: “I need to think”

I actually don't recommend using this. For a simple reason - after the stated time-out, they will demand an unambiguous answer from you, and it will not be easy to get out. Usually, a girl moves out “to think” if she is ready to say “YES!”, but what decent girl would say that right away! Right now. Let him suffer for a day or two; especially bitchy individuals drag out this torment for several months. Of course, if your task is to torture your admirer to death, feel free to say “I’ll think about it!” and watch his torment with sadistic pleasure. In fact, let him at least take a steam bath for the sake of decency, otherwise he will joyfully decide that in front of such a tough macho, all the gates of the girl’s fortresses open, just by raising an eyebrow. And the keys to the girls’ hearts are brought to him on a silver platter, like to Ostap Bender, by the girls themselves with a low bow.

Be that as it may, after some time (usually the morning after the outpouring of feelings), the gentleman begins to persistently demand an answer, and this persistence is in direct correlation with the time scale, increasing exponentially. The answer must be given at the peak of impatience. On the third day, if you do not want to inflict hellish torment on your future beloved. Hearing “YES!”, the groom experiences euphoria and the pride of a true conqueror. Let him rejoice!

But if you mistakenly took a time out, and then in a panic went online to Google and Yandex this issue, found this article and are reading with the hope of getting some practical advice - try to bring the situation into the zone of uncertainty. This can be done by introducing external factors into your decision-making process.

No, no, under no circumstances do you resort to the “my parents are against” technique - you will get an ardent Romeo who doesn’t care about all the obstacles. Be more creative. Let him know that you were already close to making a decision, but then external circumstances intervened. One of the relatives fell ill. Troubles at the university, at work. A tragedy on a grandiose personal scale - I broke my nail. Transfer everything to the state of “I can’t think about family life right now.”

If you associate this “I can’t” with problems, accept moral help from the guy, transform his kinetic destructive energy of a male into the potential of a friend, adviser, assistant, strong shoulder. Well, then act according to the situation! Suddenly, in fact, one day it will become clear to you that he is really the one you need. And bringing him into the game from the bench is a piece of cake. One or two - and you're done!

You like him, and you are ready to say “YES!”

Do not rush. As mentioned above, the agony of waiting for a guy is a real balm for a girl’s soul. Yes, you have agreed for a long time, but he doesn’t need to know about it. Let him get you, conquer you, conquer you. Let him suffer and wait, suffer.

Then, inspired by your consent, he will become soft and pliable, like a plush hare. Take it by the ears and drag it wherever your eyes look. After all, for him, your delay in agreeing will be a hint about a difficult decision. This means that not everything is so simple. At least for some time he will not treat you as his property, as long as the fear remains that you can cancel or change your decision at any moment.

Later, when he is already thoroughly sitting on your neck, dangling his legs and sipping beer while watching the TV, you will need to revive his fears and the ancient instinct of the male. But this is another story, and we will definitely tell this story on the pages